(Closed) How to keep from talking about that one thing you really…REALLY want..NOW

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MissWyoming: Even knowing it is coming is hard! For a little while it was all I could talk about. I’m doing much better now though 🙂 Remember he probably wants to surprise you and talking about it so much will ruin his moment. So relax, breath! You know it’s coming. 🙂

Post # 4
1903 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know I know! It’s so hard not too!

In fact yesterday SO asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and I bluntly (maybe even a little sarcastic?) replied;

“You know what I want”

SO knew exactly what I meant, and he went quiet after that. Sorry I didn’t bring it up directly so to speak, but I definately remind him in other ways.


Post # 5
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It is so hard!  I have to really pay attention to what i say!!  I told the same thing to my SO that spaneshal did when he asked for a christmas list.  He gave me a look and said…im not doing it on a holiday…hahaha, ok!  I am constantly having to bite my tongue.  I know its important for him to surprise me, so I force myself to stay quiet, otherwise im afraid hes going to make me wait longer!!  lol 


Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee

That’s awesome! Having never been in this situation, (but hopefully soon!) I can only give advice based on assumptions, so here it goes. I remember that liminal time between meeting my current Boyfriend or Best Friend, and when he first told me he loved me,and officially started ‘dating’ so to speak. I loved every second of that time!  I knew it would happen- I knew we would enter a serious relationship. All there was to do was give it my best and let things occur, since we’d talked about it, and I knew where we were headed.

I always thought that if I am lucky enough to get to the point where we have picked out a ring or agreed on the timeframe in which engagement would happen, I am going to feel like I did during that time before we officially started dating: all giddy and glowing and on top of the world.

My advice is to enjoy every second of it! Talk to your close friends, your family or whomever you confide in, and express all of your excitement to them. That might take the edge off of wanting to bring it up to him frequently. Start a journal if you don’t have one- it will be fun to be able to go back and read it someday. And of course, this forum is always a great place! Smile

Post # 7
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


Hi Berkana, 

I’m trying to take your advice but I think it might be easier for MissWyoming than for me.  Maybe I’m being paranoid, but I’m worried about feeling embarassed if I tell everyone I’m excited & looking forward to getting engaged, and then it doesn’t happen or takes a lot longer than I was expecting.

Post # 8
53 posts
Worker bee

@LucyLaLa: You are totally right. When considering the OP’s question, I thought maybe close friends would be appropriate. I hadn’t actually been put in this situation myself. Recently my boyfriend tells me that he wants to get married, and that I should start talking with him about wedding details and rings and what have you. Ofcourse, engagement could still be a long way off, and it is definitely going to be a process. I thought about confiding in a few close friends, but I also don’t want to set up any expectations for something that may not happen the when it’s expected to, or (God forbid) happen at all. 

So for now, I am sticking to this board, and talking to only my mom about it, who has been there for me during all of my marriage-related drama with an open mind and kind heart. While I am lucky that I am able to comfortably talk about this stuff with my boyfriend, I still have to make sure I don’t go overboard with it. For me, looking at wedding stuff and getting inspired is helping diffuse the excitement, but I know for a lot of girls on here, it makes them even more anxious. I’d say this board has helped me out the most. 

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