- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I’m an only child and very close to my mom and I’m sure she has always envisioned a day when she would help me plan my wedding. Honestly, I always thought she would be very involved as well.
Fiance and I got engaged about two weeks ago and I’m happily surprised at how involved he wants to be in planning the wedding. He is the one sending me possible venues, wanting to get together a guest list, etc…We got engaged while on vacation and while I wanted to wait to announce the engagement until we got home, he was texting everyone and updating his bbm status within a few hours. It’s all very cute and I love that he’s so excited.
The problem is where this leaves my mom. I don’t want her to feel like she’s being pushed aside because Fiance is so involved. For instance, a bridal show is in town this weekend. I had assumed I would go with my mom (and so did she). I was talking about it with Fiance yesterday and he told me that he’d like to come too. I don’t have a problem going with both Fiance and my mom, but I think she’s going to feel like a third wheel. I even have a suspicion that once she finds out Fiance is coming, she will gracefully bow out and let us go ourselves.
I try to go over to my moms house for a few hours every weekend to show her some ideas and get her feedback. Plus, I talk to my mom most days and try to keep her in the loop. We have a date in a few weeks to go dress shopping. I’m trying involve her as much as possible.
FI’s opinion is obviously necessary and I’m thrilled that he’s so involved. Anyone have any ideas on how to keep mom involved?