Post # 1
So DH and I have decided that this will be my last month on the pill then we are going to start TTC!!! I am so excited!!! We had originally discussed TTC later down the road but the other night I told him I want to try sooner and to my surpirse and delight he was 100% on board!!!
Now we are in research mode of how best to prepare for TTC. I am so excited and I sooo wanna tell my close friends and family bc I am so happy, but we decided not to tell anyone bc we dont wanna put the extra stress on ourselves in case it takes a while. We will most likely not tell anyone until after the first trimester. While I completly agree that is the best plan for us, it is gonna be so hard to keep such a big exciting secret! During ttc it will be hard, but once I know I am pregnant it will be really hard to keep my big mouth shut!
Did any of you bees find it hard to keep such a big secret? What did you guys do to not obsess about it and keep quiet? It doesnt help that a close family member asked me today when me and DH were thinking TTC. I wanted to blurt out VERY SOON! But I kept quiet and just said eventually.
I mostly wrote this post bc I wanted to share the news but would love some advice on not making it an obsession since I know it is common for it to take a few months or longer.
Also any advice on what you bees did to get ready for TTC?
Thanks for reading Bees!!!
Post # 2
Uggghh, it is very hard to keep it secret! That is what these boards are for, you can share with us. I think the only thing you need to do to get ready, (besides like get your finances/house in order), is get your body super healthy. You don’t want to start a new workout routine AFTER you are already pregnant, but if you are working out now, it is safe to maintain that level of workout during pregnancy. So right now, get fit or stay fit, eat healthy, don’t take otc meds, get on a prenatal and have lots of sex, (like every other day) during the couple weeks after your period. I think that’s the basics. I guess you are technically supposed to check your MMR titers too, to make sure you don’t need a booster, but you don’t necessarily have to visist your doc for anything else pre-tcc.
Post # 3
MrsZapatos: Thanks for the advice!!
Post # 6
MrsAKSkier: I do think it will be awesome to see the surprise look on everyones face when we tell them and I think the wait will totally be worth it. I agree with you if I cant handle the pressure I will tell one of my best friends who is TTC as well. She told everyone but I know she would keep my secret and she knows what I am going through. I am going to try and hang tough though!
Post # 7
MrsMath: Thanks! I am so glad everything worked out for you!!!
Post # 8
The most important advice I can give you as a pharmacist is to take folic acid at least 3 months before conception and during the 1st trimester at least, to prevent neural tube defects in the baby. Here, my duty is done : )
Post # 9
My mom and my best friend knew the timeframe that we’d be trying, and they also knew when we got pregnant about 5 weeks in. My mom in particular was with me in Europe and I told her I thought I might be PG so she of course had to know when we got home and I took a test.
Personally I wanted those people to be there to support me whether things went well or not so I had no problems telling immediate family and my closest friends. Not everyone is like that though. I could never have kept that secret.
Post # 10
candy08: I’ve only told one friend our TTC plans and that was because I had a very good hunch she was in a similar spot. Now it’s so nice because we share interesting articles, secret pinterest boards, etc. It’s great having someone I can talk to without bugging DH all the time. However, I don’t plan on sharing with anyone until we’re actually expecting. That’s why these boards are so great!
Post # 11
candy08: Just eat well, and take a prenatal vitamin daily. Try not to stress. I know it seems exciting to tell people you are TTC but to be honest after the initial excitement of the the announcement it sucks when everyone is always looking at you wondering if you are pregnant yet and if not, offering advice on what you should do differently. Our families are already offerings device and all up in our business and we are sticking with the stour that we aren’t yet TTC, I can’t even imagine if we told them we were hahahah We haven’t told anyone except for on here that we are TTC, it’s a good outlet when you can’t hold it in!
Post # 12
This could have been written by me! DH and I are going away for our 1st anniversary in May. The week before is my placebo week and we decided I’d discontinue BC after that. We originally planned to try later this year, and I sat him down last week and told him I want to try sooner and he was relieved because he didn’t want to wait either! Just wanted to say congrats on making that decision. I’m cutting out processed foods and generally eating healthier (I’m generally good with that anyway) and just trying to work out more and get in better shape. I also started reading “What to Expect Before You’re Expecting” and it’s been really helpful so far. Good luck!
Post # 13
candy08: Im just starting TTC right now and I basically told my 2 best friends a) because I know they wont tell anyone, b) neither live where I live so its not like they’re going to slip up at a gathering c) I NEEDED to talk to someone whose been there (they both have babies)
My DH on the other hand is a bit loose lipped. We have fully agreed NO ONE in the family can know (because both our parents are blabbermouths) plus we dont want the pressure of them knowing because they’re going to me monitoring every freakin move I make…. He did however basically tell his whole office lol. He’s close to them and they are like family, but again they dont know anyone in our circle so no one will find out.
Post # 14
in addition lol… kinda funny story….
My DH boss has 2 small children and they live close to us… when he told him about pulling the goalie he gave us a whole bunch of stuff they wont be using anymore (more to come) and we just had it in our garage. Well in a not so regular event SIL came over 2 weeks ago to hang out on a saturday and they came through the garage… she freaked out lol…. OMG omg omg… and of course we just played it off like “Oh hells no, my boss just gave us hand me downs for later….”! Oh ok thats nice of him.
Post # 15
DH and I married (in our 30’s) and we planned to start TTC right away.
it wasn’t a secret, i didn’t keep it a secret, and i had to problem sharing if someone asked. yes, were trying right away.
now, 7 cycles later, my friends know i will tell them when it is the right time. friends who have had babies know not to ask. only my closest friend knows all the struggles i’ve been going through. i need a support system as well, DH can’t be everything.
good luck to you that you will get your BFP right away and not have to worry.
Post # 16
candy08: I’m on day TWO of knowing that I’m pregnant and I’m already bursting at the seams to tell people! Ha! I’m very glad that I only told a couple of super close friends that we were TTC because I didn’t want everyone analyzing me all the time and trying to “bust me” for being pregnant before I was ready to tell! We still haven’t quite decided how long we are going to wait to tell our parents…. DH’s mom can be kind of loose-lipped…. Good luck!
Post # 17
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
I haven’t told many people just my sister and my best friend! I love coming on these boards and discussing TTC, it helps!