Post # 1
Here is my quick run down!
1. For our wedding, we wanted a max of 150-175 people to attend. We purchased the cake for that many, chair covers for 200, enough centerpieces and everything with thost #’s in mind. FMI (zilla for short) added sooo many people to our list, that it went up to 363 people. We told her it had to be cut, she threw a hissy fit. Now, just so happens, we are getting a bunch of extra people rsvp-ing?
2. I asked my little cousin (not so little, shes 23) to be a BM. I felt bad for not asking my other cousin, so I finally asked her. She has been nothing but a b* the whole time!!! She’s been rude and annoying and always telling me how much better her stuff is and was and blah blah blah. But yet…she’s 26…was engaged, broke up with him to be with another guy, got married 2 years ago, divorced last year, engaged this year for a wedding next year and once she found out our date, she moved her wedding to a month before ours. She made very ignorant comments at my bridal shower and is causing alot of drama. She has even threw a fit because I asked my younger cousin to be in the wedding a couple days before her. She has even told me how are wedding is rediculous!!! ummm I have done so much stuff myself in order to save money and not go overboard on spending. I think total, I have spent about $6,000! That’s very very good!!!! I have considered kicking her out, but then I may lose my other bridesmaid since it’s her sister and cause alot of problems with my aunt (their mom) and my mom (sisters). I’m not sure if I should just exclude her from everything else and keep her in the wedding or boot her.
3. I have a MOH who is very set in her ways. If she “suggest” something…and I don’t like her idea, she gets mad! My bachelorette party was supposed to be a suprise…but someone happened to let it slip because they were upset they couldnt come. The reason they can’t come is because of how much it’s going to cost. It’s going to cost a couple hundred $’s each by the end of the day. She is mad that I suggested that we do something that’s not so pricey so more people can come.
There are more things…but these are the main ones. I guess what really bothers me is that the ladies that are involved in the above mentioned things, are all thinking I’m being bitchy and a bridezilla? I just can’t see that. I don’t think that my complaints are outrageous or anything? I guess I just need some words of encouragement because I feel like crying almost every single day!
Post # 3
sorry to be completely honest you need a new bridal party. *sigh* but not much you can do with just a couple weeks to the wedding. remember you can only do what you can do, its your wedding.
and quite frankly if you piss off the folks you dont like, who cares, since you dont like them anyway?
i know it sounds harsh but why even deal with the drama if you dont need to?
the problem children, just keep them out of things and hope they show up the day of, or maybe they wont and you can have a stress free day.
Post # 4
Wow. This is why we decided to not have a bridal party, and did not ask our parents to contribute to the guest list. Soooo glad I decided to have the wedding in a place where none of our parents live. Made things so much easier. I don’t have advice, other than do what you want, because it sounds like you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
Post # 5
I second crayfish. Poor you! I’d threaten them with being booted, if you were prepared for the possibility of strolling up the aisle without their “support”?!!
Have your mom/aunt anything to say about the BM behaviour? It sounds extremely childish at their age. Or can you manage to goad one of them into saying something snotty in front of their mom/dad, so someone else can see how they’re treating you?
Sorry, that’s prob just as childish, and no help!
Have you a honeymoon to look forward to, after your big day? I hope so!
Post # 6
As regards your MOH, I know this is no use to you at this stage, but I’m pre-empting this one by controlling this stuff myself. If I don’t, there’ll be dodgy nightclubs, lapdances, willy straws and all other sorts of nonsense that are just not me. It’s my wedding, so it follows, as far as I can see, that I should enjoy my bach party!
Mind you, they’d all be screaming Bridezillaaaah at me if I said that out loud!
Post # 7
It always amazes me how much other people can make YOUR day all about them. I’m having issues with my future sister in law whose husband is allegedly going to be a groomsman…we’ll see if they show up.
My bridal party is small and I’ve had no issues, but my best friends had to ask 2 of her original BMs not to be in the wedding because of things they did that really hurt my friend. It’s an uncomfortable decision to make, but it sounds like they don’t really WANT to be standing up for you, either. And in reality, the drama isn’t your fault; you’re reacting to things that are happening to you.
I don’t know what to say about the head count… 363 is a lot of people! FMI should be pitching in on the cost!!
Focus on the fact that at the end of the day, no matter what happens in between, you’re going to be married to your best friend…and then you get to go on vacation!
Post # 8
Wow. I dont know how you are doing such a huge wedding on such a small budget, but that is AWESOME! Good for you!
What does the sister of the maid that is being a beoch saying? Does she know about the issue? I guess I would sit her down and be honest and ask her why she is acting this way. Tell her she is causing you strife instead of helping. Ask her if she wants to be in the wedding? In a nice way- not like you are going to kick her out (even though you should). Maybe there is more to her story than it seems?
Your FMIL, she did kick in for all of these extra guests, I hope! how did invites get to people that you didn’t want invited? Did you give them to your FMIL? OOPS!
I’m with you on the cost of the bachelorette party. Rediculous to spend that kind of cash on that! I feel badly for your friend that was left out because of the cost.
Boy, I’m glad I only have 1 attendant!