Post # 1
Yes I have been dreading BM dress shopping (I have one BM that lives out-of-state) because I’m afraid that I’ll break down and try on a dress (‘the dress’?)).
I am a DB bride, the only dress I ever tried on and I am locked into it, there’s no changing it, and I generally like it, not much of that ahha moment though, and I’m generally fine with that. It’s fits our outdoor summer wedding perfectly.
Enter the issue: the DB BM dresses would look awful on my BM so I’m headed over to AA this week to do the final look through of their BM dresses and pick the three or four that she can pick through. For years (yes I mean years) AA has had a dress that I LOVED absolutely sure that it was going to be my dress. I never even tried it on (I even know the exact shade of blue the accent would be), and part of me even knows that it is out for so many reasons. So here’s the dress I’ve coveted:
So short of walking through the store with a set of blinders on (knowing full well that the saleswomen would be more than happy to let me try on the dress) how do I keep from trying on the dress?
Post # 3
So the first pic is the dress you bought, and the second is the one you think you want? No offense, but the 2nd is quite hideous. That style was popular back in the late 90s, and even then it was questionable.
Your first dress is beautiful and looks lovely on you. The 2nd is nothing short of tacky, in my opinion.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t use the word tacky, but I agree that the first dress is much more modern. If you really like the idea of color, could you add a blue sash to the dress you bought?
Post # 5
@mdcmod: I’m almost wondering if looking at the second dress will give me that ‘ugg’ moment and I’ll finally be able to put it out of my mind. I think I’m just craving some color in my dress right now and don’t know how to get it.
Post # 6
My cousin recently got married in a dress that was the same as the second dress (but with a purple accent). She is a very big girl and the panel of colour only made her look bigger, and the style was really ummm…. dated. In the 4 months since their wedding, I haven’t hears one single positive comment about her dress (a lot of “what was she thinking!”).
Normally, I’m all about brides choosing anything they want, but please don’t pick the second dress. Yours is lovely! Add a flower crown and some pretty jewellery and you will look AMAZING!
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
@renwoman: Agreed, the 2nd dress is a very dated look. I think your dress is MUCH prettier than that one and to be honest, the AA dress makes me think of a whole lot of things I won’t say on here because I know they’ll get me flamed.
It’s an old style that (like puffy sleeve) should go away.
Post # 8
Yeah the thing is that I have a LOT of emotional stuff around my current dress right now and part of my just wants to chuck it completely even though I do really like it. I think if I just get a chance to let the emotions around it calm down I’ll feel much better about it.
Post # 9
I don’t like that 2nd dress either. It looks like a costume for the queen of hearts. I love your dress. It’s bridal, it fits you beautifully, and it’s perfect for your outdoor wedding. If you need to try it on to get it out of your system then do it…but then read our comments about it so that you will be happy with your dress. Have you ever seen the front of it? It truly looks like the queen of hearts costume.
Post # 10
Have a big meal before going dress shopping with your BM that day. Don’t know about everyone else but I never want to try on any clothes after that. 🙂
Post # 11
Wow, ouch. I really like the second dress, and everyone in here is calling it ugly.
Post # 12
@renwoman: You are right- your dress fits an outdoor summer ceremony perfectly! The other one would be SO HOT outside in the summer! You need YOUR dress- light and flowy. Don’t be swayed!! Your dress is perfect. Just focus on your BM dresses while at AA. In fact… go with another “AA” method… go in say “Hi. My name is renwoman and I already have a wedding gown.” Then ONLY look at BM dresses!
Post # 13
@renwoman: The dress you purchased is so much nicer than the second one you posted. Not only does that one scream “winter/holiday” wedding to me, as other bees have noted, it really looks dated. I was never a fan of those dresses even when they were “in,” so I’m a little biased; I guess I just think they’re kinda cheesy/costumey looking.
The dress you bought, on the other hand, is classic elegance! Keep it!
Post # 14
The second dress isn’t for everyone (it’s def not for me) but if you like it you can’t help what you like.
As for adding a bit of color – why not a fancy sash/belt? Look on etsy, they have some fantastic belts and that will satisfy your craving for color!
Post # 15
If you want to infuse some colour into your dress why not add a coloured belt or sash? Or even change the crinoline under your dress to coloured crinoline?
I agree with everyone else… Keep your dress! it is beautiful! The second dress reminds me of my grad dress that I wore over 10 years ago..
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
If you really want to add some color, how about colorful flowers, jewelry, hair accessories, and/or shoes? or a colored crinoline?