(Closed) How to kill a friendship

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Stand up for yourself. It will be difficult at first, but it will get easier. Tell her everything that you’ve said here, and let her know that it’s unacceptable for her daughter to be treating you that way. Things will evolve on their own from there.

Post # 4
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am all for closure, so I would either call her (if you want to deal with her possibls screaming) or send her a long email telling her how you feel, thanking her for the years you had to just saying you feel it is best you go your separate ways in life.

You can either ignore the 18 year old or text her how you didnt appreciate that and wish her well in life? Get your point across and be the bigger person

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t think you should communicate through this 18 year old daughter anymore. It’s extremely unhealthy for everyone involved and very passive aggressive of your friend. You should wait a few days then write your friend an email or call her and say “Hey I hope you know my phone has been turned off, but if you want to reach me just call my cell or email me”.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t give her the time of day anymore. She doesn’t seem like a decent friend at all. That’s just rude of her. I say move on with the rest of you real friends. Don’t let her get you down.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

if you have a circle of friends with her next time you meet tell her everything, that you prefer going your own way and not having false friends, that you don’t have to explain yourself to her daughter or to her!  I know its real hard to confront people, but at least you will have closure, and it’s not good to keep hard feelings to yourself 🙁

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I’m in the ignoring camp.  You didn’t owe your BM’s daughter an explanation – I’d screen calls and not return them and not return any IM’s from either for them.  If your BM wants to get together – then I think you have a responsibility to tell her the truth (ie: you don’t want to pursue the friendship).  IMO – don’t waste any more time and energy on a relationship you choose not to have.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I tend to hang around an older crowd for the same reasons, but lately I’ve been finding that older doesn’t mean mature. I would confront her for the simple fact that her 18 year old daughter felt comfortable talking to you like that. Honestly I would let her have it and hang up. I wouldn’t want to continue being friends with someone who spoke bad about my relationship. 

I don’t like to confront people either, but enough is enough. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@firsttimemom:

Sorry for the misunderstanding! I meant be the bigger person by respectfully telling her how you feel. I see nothing wrong wrong with letting her know how you feel but in a nice way.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

So she blocked you before or after her 18yo called you? Either way, she just screams attention/drama whore. I don’t like the fact that you allow people to walk all over you. This would be a great way to learn how to stand up for yourself, especially since you don’t care one way or the other whether she stays in  your life or not. Call her up, tell her how you feel and see where she takes it from there.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

She sounds crazy.  Just cut her loose.  Just say, “You’re a crummy friend.” and never talk to her again.

I broke up with my best friend of 8 years because she started being really crummy to me.  The last straw was when I was driving her home (she was drunk) and she started punching me and pulling at the wheel.  That was the last time I saw her.

With friends like these, who needs enemys?

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