Post # 1
I personally have no desire for a bacholette/bridal shower. I’m honored people want to throw me them and think it’s very sweet and I love being part of other peoples. But I hate all attention on me, and I have no issue with other people doing so but we already live together and have 2 babies so it just doesnt feel right. We’re also getting ready to move out of state so our wedding is becoming an unintentional destination wedding since it will still be where we currently live. Needless to say we have a lot going on and showing up and help planning more things exhausts me to think about. Anyways my grandmother, aunt, couple friends and especially my fiancée are acting like I have two heads for saying I don’t want to do anything. Also all of these people are great at makomg the beginning of plans but don’t finish so if I do agree I know the end details will fall on me, which is really why I don’t feel like a can take this On.I have said all of this to them and they just make more ideas what to do. I’m not trying to be ungrateful, how do I gracefully decline from having my own parties?
Post # 2
“Thank you so much for the offer to host a shower/bachelorette. You are a dear friend/relative/sister . I am so lucky to have you in my life. I have chosen not to have a shower/backelorette. I am asking you to respect that decision. I can’t wait till the wedding,not only to be united with your brother/son/grandson/ dear friend ____, but also to be surrounded by all the people I love, including you.”
Post # 3
julies1949: thank you, that’s exactly what I was looking for. I’m sure you can tell from my post I’m a bit scattered right now lol and just couldn’t put the words together.
Post # 4
I’m in the same situation. FSIL kindly offered to host a shower, but it will mainly be for FH’s family, as my family and friends all live in different states. FH agreed, so I went along with it, even though I now have to drive SIX HOURS to my shower. My MOH (only bridal attendant) tried to plan a bachelorette, though I had to to tell her I just don’t want one. 90% of the friends I’d care to spend a day with love out of state, and I honestly don’t have the time. I did agree that she and I would have a spa day the week of the wedding.
So to address your question (finally, lol), just decline graciously. It shouldn’t be looked upon unfavorably.