(Closed) How to know when to start ttc?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Zelkara:  First, talk to your husband and let him know your concerns. The last thing you want is to be stuck in a situation you regret and then one of you winds up  resenting the other because there wasn’t enough discussion in the beginning. 

From what I hear, there never is a “right time” to start trying. But if you feel like you could be ok with it, but don’t want the pressure, just stop using BC but don’t chart day and night like some people do. Then you can be surprised when it happens, and not freaking out about MAKING it work. Unless you want to do it that way. Either way, try to relax and have fun. And if you decide that taking some time is right for you, don’t push it.

Post # 5
1431 posts
Bumble bee

I am in the exact same boat! I also have endormetriosis and newly married. I always said 1-2 years till we start trying, his plan was 2-3 but now that I am married I am even more unsure what to do.  I always thought I would really want more time as a newlywed but now a little baby fever has come over me.  Im conflicted because A- I want to save money, travel and have more fun before parenthood. but B- I have no idea how long it will take for me to concieve, or if it’s even possible and I don’t want to wait until we are both super ready for kids and then it just doesn’t happen.  We talked about it and we decided at our year we will start trying, so I am trying to just focus and getting really healthy until then. I’m going to try and do the endometriosis diet and cut out all the things that worsen it, keep track of my cycles/ovulation better and get accupuncture more regularly so hopefully when the year rolls around It will give me the best chance possible and I will feel my best. 

Post # 6
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Here’s my story, hopefully it will give you some insight.

I first got married at 24.  Finished college first, got a job, then got married.  I had a plan.  Didn’t want kids at the time.  Wanted a house first.  Took us 3 years to accomplish that.  The baby hormones kicked in at 27 and they were ridiculous.  We started TTC.  Everyone said go to the fertility doc after us TTC for 2 years.  I waited.  Tried Clomid, didn’t work…waited some more.  My ex got deployed…we waited.  He got back and we went in full swing with shots/IUIs…after TTC for 6 years.  We eventually divorced.  

I am now remarried…now that it’s “safe” to get pregnant, I realize I have been trying for almost 9 years….which kills me.  I’m to the point of giving up the thought of ever being pregnant.  Because I feel I waited TOO much trying to accomplish other things.  

A good friend told me (9 years ago) that there will always be a reason to “wait”.  She said if it was something I wanted (like how I got the degrees, house, good job) then I should go for it.  I wished I would have taken her advice…So here’s my advice, if it’s something you want…do NOT put it off…make it part of your plan.  You don’t want to look back and have any regrets, especially with your fertility.  

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