- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So i know everyone has stories ab their evil mil. I will try to be as short and simple as possible. My fi and i have been dating for 4 years. For 2 of those my fi and myself had a great relationship with his dad and mom. They were married for 25 years and got a divorce, he is remarried now. Since his dad has remarried things have changed drastically!
We never go visit and when we were it was always awkward. His dad has done him wrong a couple times and my fi and myself have always been the ones to go back and try to form a relationship with them, so this last time when we went to try and make things better, i was insulted and my fi was told that he would never have a relationsip w his dad because of “who he sleeps with” and trust me that has went thru my head a MILLION times since she said it… i mean how could she say that? I have been in this family longer than she has… I have never disrespected her….. and my ffil just sat that there and let it all happen =( i am deeply saddened. I thought he thought more of me than that….he used to, he always referred to me as the daughter he never had… but those days are gone and things will never be the same no matter how much time passes by.. People have said that the step fmil did this on purpose to weed me and my fi out of the picture but honestly idc ab all that crap i just want PEACE!!!
She also said things, that are absolutley untrue. Such as my real fmil told ppl i was raped, and that i told my real fmil when my real ffil remarried… (supposably realying information ab their lifes to my real fmil). i honestly dont know what to think…. im sick of thinking about it. im hurt deeply! i am a very honest loving person who would never hurt someone, especially intentionally like she has done me… and he is just as guilty because he sat there and let it all happen….
And all of this is going on while my FI and myself are planning our wedding… did she do that on purpose? I want to forgive them and move forward (yes i am that much of a loving person, turst me sometimes i can be too forgiving and it can be a blessing and a curse)!!!, but idk how to let go and move forward without confronting them, and we are obviousley not on speaking terms and my fi and myself def will not be the ones to make the effort ONCE AGAIN, because the last time we tried that this BS happened. What do i do? Just let time heal our hearts?
Also his brother has literally said that he is on my fi’s dads “side” yea i know… childish but someone planted that in his head, and i think that person is the step fmil… so his brother being this way drives a wedge b/w things… i always looked up to his parents when they were together
So i know that this is a bunch of jumbled up paragraphs, but i guess thats how my head has been lately… but here’s the question… (and feel free to leave any extra advice and or comments), how do i let go and move forward so i can have a peaceful life, happy marriage, & focus on my wedding! That is less than 6 months away now btw!!!! I’m so excited! =D