- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
Going back to before we were even officially engaged, both FI & I were in agreement that we LOVED the idea of a semi-destination wedding weekend. Not too far away that it would prohibit our grandparents from attending, but far enough that it would be a lovely getaway for everyone. We also loved that the wedding events are not crammed into a 6 hr time frame, but rather spread over 2-3 days, giving more time to relax and celebrate with guests. We had our sights set on a Lake Tahoe wedding weekend, as it’s less than 2 hrs away and somewhere we love to spend time.
However, after spending hours & days trying to reduce the massive guest list we have, it seems our dream wedding is impossible. I was able to make some drastic cuts to the list taking it from 380 to 300. But the numbers are still stretching the cost beyond our budget. (The 25% (+/-) service charge on food and beverage + tax is a budget killer! Am I right??) I would love to focus on quality over quantity but any way you slice it we can’t get the list to that level.
So, late last night I decided that if we cannot cut our list down any further, we have to reevaluate, and focus our venue search more locally. Logically, I understand that this is just the way it needs to be. But emotionally, how to I fight this feeling of disappointment? Although I love the thought of being surrounded by tons of family and friends, I’m not in love with the idea of a 6 hour/300+ guest wedding (going local will inevitably increase the list) in which we barley have the time to see all of our guests and enjoy ourselves.
I hate hearing myself worry or complain about this. We are SO fortunate to have such large families and close friends! So how do I get rid of this deflated feeling, move on from the vision of our wedding weekend getaway, and embrace this situation?