- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
So I really need advice. After long and careful consideration, I’m, thinking of letting my maid of honor go. We’ve the best of friends and coworkers for quite some time, however I’m starting to really see her differently over the past few months. The once great girl that I loved so dearly, has slowly changed, and I find it challenging to keep up with her. She’s really changed over the last few years and has become one of the most bittered, miserable, alcoholic and self centered person I’ve ever met. She has spats with my other friends/coworkers all the time, informing me that they are NOT invited to my wedding and berates me whenever I speak to anyone she dislikes (pretty much everyone). She get crass with me over certain people in my bridal party who I want to stand next to me at my wedding– anyone she dislikes she does her best to let me know. Whenever I even spend time with someone she doesn’t know or doesn’t approve of, she gets really upset. It’s all so childish, I know, but its like I’m getting sucked into this web of adolescent b.s all the time. It’s such a bummer because I love her dearly, I just can’t keep her around while she’s acting this way. Its got to the point that not only does it stress me out, but it stresses out my other friends as well.
The sad thing is that I’m actually scared to tell her all of this. She will most likely flip out and act like a child about the whole thing– sometimes I feel like she’s turned into one of the most mean people I know.
I try to be understanding to her. I realize that the life she leads doesnt fufill her in anyway. She’s lonley, out of shape, and drinks way to much. I’m not trying to sound like a jerk here either. I’ve tried to get her to go to the gym with me or engage in non-drinking related activities, she just mocks me, makes a snide remark and rolls her eyes.
This situation has got to the point that its breaking my heart to deal with. I’m hurt because I’ve lost one of my oldest friends. I’m hurt because I’ve tried to reach out and help her, but she has no interest in taking help. And sadly, I deahly scared of the mean backlash that I will endure once I tell her that I can’t keep her around when she’s acting this way. All of my friends say that I need to speak with her, but that’s easier said than done.
What do I do???