(Closed) how to let men down gently?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I usually try to be upfront so that they know.  Or they notice the rings on my finger.  Last time someone approached me, I wasn’t wearing my rings so it was a little awkward.

Post # 4
Member
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I compliment them and then tell them I’m not single.  I usually make a little joke and then offer to set them up with a single friend LOL

“You seem so very nice and are super cute, but I’m already attached, however I may have some single friends that might interest you” Then I pop a big smile and a little giggle.

Post # 5
Member
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think I would plan dumb and make sure my left hand was in plain view.

But I so clueless that I probably wouldn’t see the difference between someone being chatty and someone hitting on me.  I don’t think anyone has ever hit on me…whic is probably why I didn’t meet my fiance until I was 28.  I was too clueless to know someone was showing interest before that.

Post # 6
Member
9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I say “I’m married.”

Seriously, that’s all I do haha!

Post # 7
Member
1325 posts
Bumble bee

I usually work my boyfriend into the conversation as early as possible. That way it’s clear I’m involved and I don’t look like I’m full of myself for assuming the guy was trying to “get to know me.” I just act like I had no idea so the guy doesn’t feel embarrassed and he can try to convince himself he didn’t get shot down.

Something natural. “Oh! You like such and such place for Lebanese food? It’s great! I just went there with my boyfriend….blah blah blah.”

Post # 8
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I totally know what you mean! I hate saying something too quickly because sometimes I can’t tell if they’re just trying to be nice or if they’re trying to get a date with me.  I’d hate to be like “I’m sorry, I’m dating someone” and for them to say “Oh, I’m sorry, I wasn’t trying to ask you out, I was just trying to be nice because you looked lonely over here by yourself.”  MEGA-EMBARASSINGGGG!!!  I would just die.  

 

 

Post # 10
Member
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@KatyElle: LOL I do the same-say that I am married. It just make it less awkward for everyone. And no hard feelings. 🙂

Post # 11
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Shirinjoon: I try to stay away from complimenting guys because that usually leads them on even if you say you are in a relationship.

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