Post # 1
So I’m not sure how you ladies deal with a situation when a perfectly nice man aproaches you and strikes up a conversation which clearly is geared towards showing romantic interst in you. Now I’m not talking about those nasty men who try to pick you up, but the nice normal ones who you would have considered dating before meeting your guy. How far do you let the convo go before telling him your involved with someone . I feel bad because I just tell the guy right away that I’m involved and I end the convo. Is that harsh? Tonight it happened again and the guy was such a gentleman and def attractive so I’m sure he has no trouble meeting women. But still I felt bad being so short with him. I’m so not a flirt-i actually would feel guilty doing that. Any tips?
Post # 3
I usually try to be upfront so that they know. Or they notice the rings on my finger. Last time someone approached me, I wasn’t wearing my rings so it was a little awkward.
Post # 4
I compliment them and then tell them I’m not single. I usually make a little joke and then offer to set them up with a single friend LOL
“You seem so very nice and are super cute, but I’m already attached, however I may have some single friends that might interest you” Then I pop a big smile and a little giggle.
Post # 5
I think I would plan dumb and make sure my left hand was in plain view.
But I so clueless that I probably wouldn’t see the difference between someone being chatty and someone hitting on me. I don’t think anyone has ever hit on me…whic is probably why I didn’t meet my fiance until I was 28. I was too clueless to know someone was showing interest before that.
Post # 6
I say “I’m married.”
Seriously, that’s all I do haha!
Post # 7
I usually work my boyfriend into the conversation as early as possible. That way it’s clear I’m involved and I don’t look like I’m full of myself for assuming the guy was trying to “get to know me.” I just act like I had no idea so the guy doesn’t feel embarrassed and he can try to convince himself he didn’t get shot down.
Something natural. “Oh! You like such and such place for Lebanese food? It’s great! I just went there with my boyfriend….blah blah blah.”
Post # 8
I totally know what you mean! I hate saying something too quickly because sometimes I can’t tell if they’re just trying to be nice or if they’re trying to get a date with me. I’d hate to be like “I’m sorry, I’m dating someone” and for them to say “Oh, I’m sorry, I wasn’t trying to ask you out, I was just trying to be nice because you looked lonely over here by yourself.” MEGA-EMBARASSINGGGG!!! I would just die.
Post # 9
I don’t have a ring I could show so that is not an option. And these are situaions where it’s clear the guy is interested, so that’s why I just say something straight away. But it gets so awkward and I feel so bad doing it. I want to compliment the gu sometimesSSlike tonight, he was so handsome–but I don’t want them to get the wrong idea so I just say Oit was nice meeting you!
Post # 10
@KatyElle: LOL I do the same-say that I am married. It just make it less awkward for everyone. And no hard feelings. 🙂
Post # 11
@Shirinjoon: I try to stay away from complimenting guys because that usually leads them on even if you say you are in a relationship.