Post # 1
Hi Bees! You guys are so helpful to me lately – Here’s another thing i’m struggling with that maybe you can answer? 🙂
I’m having two weddings – one in CA and one in NY. For the one in CA I’m having an afternoon garden party wedding for about 80 people. Something like 1:30 to 5:30, with a late lunch served around 3pm. The venue is an outdoor formal garden, quite lovely with white picket fences and lots of roses. We will have the ceremony, cocktails, lunch, dessert and more cocktails. Also I should add the CA wedding is mostly friends with only a few family members (my family is all in NY and FI only has immediate family).
So after the wedding, I would like to casually invite people to an ‘afterparty’ at a nearby tiki bar. It’s not an official wedding event, but just an afterparty where friends can show up (they can even invite their other friends who weren’t invited to the wedding – casual boyfriends/girlfriends who arent’ invited etc). The bar is a fun spot with an outdoor space and a thatched roof kind of thing. I talked to the owner and he said we could set something up where my party could all wear a certain identifier like leis or a flower or something, and then they would get a free drink from a batch (like a mai thai or daquari or some drink that we pre-select). So if we pay X amount, our guests would get X number of free drinks, and then they would have to pay for themselves. I was thinking we could also then order pizza for dinner for the group. I’m assuming there would be about 30 or 40 folks. They also have DJs so there would be dancing. Again, we wouldn’t have the whole place reserved therefore it’s not an official wedding event.
But I’m not sure how to advertise this. Should I put it on our wedding website? Or make fliers to hand out at the wedding? Or just do word of mouth?
Also I’m not sure if we should go straight over there, or if FI will want to have some down time first, or go watch the sunset at the beach first. Maybe tell guests to go right over and we will be there in a bit; they don’t really need us to start the party!
Thanks for your help!
Post # 2
I actually just got an invite yesterday where the option was to RSVP for two events: the first was a luncheon right after the ceremony, the second was a party elsewhere later in the evening. I think the idea is to do something fun with just the young people lols. And only close friends would RSVP to both anyway because they’re hours apart. Anyway, that’s how they’re doing it, by including in the invite and website. Just an idea.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY
I’m doing something casual like that, as well – however it will be much later. We’re just having our bridesmaids and groomsmen spread the word during the reception. It isn’t formal, so I don’t want anyone to feel obligated, we just want to spend a little more time with our guests in a more casual atmosphere.
Post # 4
We just put it on our wedding website that we are meeting at the hotel bar after the reception. Oh, we also included it in our information sheet in the hotel welcome boxes that every hotel guest got.
Post # 5
Gwendolyn88: We spread the word through social media, the wedding website, and then had the last dance at the wedding be “closing time” and the DJ said that you don’t have to go home, but you can go join the bride and the groom at the flying saucer for the after party!
We really wanted it to be open to people we weren’t able to invite to the wedding as well as everyone at the wedding.
Post # 6
Gwendolyn88: I would probably make an anouncement at the wedding! If you make a quick thank you speech or if anyone makes any sort of “houekeeping” announcements, have them mention it. I like cute fliers, so I’d probably make those up and have them on the tables or in the program. Either way you do it, it will be good. I just worry about word of mouth, I’d definitely forget to tell some people and then I’d feel bad!
Post # 7
Gwendolyn88: We did the same thing. I had an afternoon garden party high tea wedding and then an afterparty at my parents house afterwards.
I made a facebook event for my friends/cousins/people who use fb and my parents and his parents invited their friends by phone/email.
There was also an announcement at the wedding