- 6 years ago
I have an old roommate that I keep in touch with via facebook. She lives several states away and is more than halfway through her pregnancy. She had invited me to her wedding a couple years ago but I wasn’t able to attend and I declined. I’ve always felt bad about that even though we’re not close friends and rarely send personal messages to each other, just comment on each others statuses sometimes. Well I asked her a month ago if she was registered anywhere for the baby and she said due to her continuing morning sickness, which has been pretty bad for her, she hadn’t been able to register yet.
Now that she’s getting farther along I really wanted to send her a gift, so I emailed her and asked for her address, not explaining why because I wanted the gift to be a surprise. She replied quickly with her address and asked “oh is it time to send wedding invitations now?” and asked how wedding planning is going. She knows my FI and I don’t have big families but we’re inviting about 100 people to the wedding so there will be mostly friends, but she was never on our guest list. STDs have gone out months ago but I don’t think she knows that since nobody mentioned them on my facebook. In fact other than it saying I’m engaged, there’s nothing about my wedding posted on my facebook.
I had no idea what to say, so I replied that planning is stressful and we have been making lots of cutbacks due to how expensive it all is. I then told her that I wanted to make sure she had some gifts for the baby and was sending them to her home. She replied again asking more questions about the wedding. I don’t know what to say to her! Her baby will be only a few months old by the time the wedding rolls around and we can’t risk inviting more than our capacity can hold, which we are at our max now. Even if we had some people rsvp no there are other closer friends that we would want to invite instead. What should I say to her? Your help is appreciated!