Post # 1
ok i am making our invitations and my mom has been with my step dad for 28 years they got married them selves in 2008
my dad married my step mom who passed away this last year(should i include her on invitation?) i never had a relationship with her or my father but my mom said i should include at least his name.
now i plan on including my fiances parents who divorced when he was a teenager and his mother never remarried and his dad passed away 7 years ago.
Post # 3
In general, dead people are not included on invitations. You can have an in memoray of section on program, if you do program
Post # 4
Yeah, I’m not sure that including a dead person’s name on the invitation would be appropriate. Also, when you start factoring in parents re-marrying, it gets really difficult to include everyone on the invitations.
Would you consider maybe writing “Together with our families” on the invitations, rather than listing everyone by name?
Post # 5
If it was a natural parent (as your FI’s dad) who passed away, I could see you putting something like this example:
The honour of your presence is requested at the marriage of
daughter of John Drake and the late Barbara Drake,
son of Mr. and Mrs. Matthew Connors,
However, since it’s not your natural parent that has passed away, I think trying to include her could be either cluttered or very confusing – you don’t want to make it appear as if she is hosting the event from beyond the grave. I like the “Together with their families” or whatever feels most natural and appropriate to the tone of your wedding.
ETA: This link has some nice wording for stepparents. Maybe you can figure out a way to combine things that way.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Who is hosting?
If you are, I’d probably go with:
daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Mom’s Husband’s First and Last
Mr. Dad’s First and Last, (note: no “and”)
son of Ms. First Last
the late Mr. First Last, (note: no “and”)
request blah blah blah
“and” means “married to” in this context, which is why the names would be listed one above another in asyndeton