How to Live with A Roommate You Suddenly Are Questioning With Your New Husband

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is going to be a complete disaster. Seriously. Unless you have absolutely nowhere else to go, do not go through with this. There is nothing wrong with telling your husband’s boss and everyone else that the living arrangement was just not compatible with you. You will find something else in the area, and hey, you can always be friend with the landlord. But seriously, do.not.move.in., you guys are going to be miserable.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like hell, don’t do it!! As PP said, you can still be friends with the landlords and maybe they can help you find somewhere better in the same area. I would be afraid of the effect on my relationship too living in such conditions. Home is supposed to be where you can relax and spend time together, I would be doing everything possible not to go home to that! Good luck whatever you decide.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree that you should not enter into this situation, but the real issue here is that you and your husband aren’t on the same page. All you can do is talk to him about it some more. If he is 100% against getting out of this arrangement, then I am not sure what you can do. Good luck. It sounds like a major mistake in progress.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Unless it’s this or homelessness, don’t do it. If you do, it’ll be a disaster. You’ll save yourself a lot of trouble by just backing out now. There will always be another place.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Don’t do this. Talk with your husband about your concerns. Does he share your thoughts on children? I would have a very serious conversation with him; this does not sound like a good living situation for you at all.

 

Post # 7
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69 posts
Worker bee

You are already not liking each other, why move in and make everybody miserable? Guys are dense with getting the vibe, put your foot down here.

i am also a bit confused about your hypothetical ‘who should be kicked out of the house?’ question. If you guys are subrenting from this couple why do you think that they are the ones who should be kicked out if you don’t like living with them? If you are corenting then again you are not the ones who found the house and i would have moral issues with your stance, does not matter that you don’t like them.

however difficult it seems to cancel this now, it will only get worse if you go through with it.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

You need to find your own place.  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Pull the plug. Turn away now and run as fast as you can!!

Yes, you will always have to compromise with housemates but this is clearly a disaster! Agree that it sounds like they just want the big house for themselves and for you to help with the rent.

There must be other places to rent in the area. Maybe you can’t afford a four bedroom house, but I think you’ll be much happier in a smaller place when it’s only your junk everywhere and you’re only having to deal with your husband. If you need help with the money, I’m sure that you could find a better housemate situation!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

There’s no way this will work.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

RUN!! 

This won’t work. You’ll hate every minute of it and it will end up puting a serious strain on your marriage.

Post # 13
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239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

This has got disaster written all over it. Seriously don’t do it. I lived with people I LOVED and we still ended up driving each other nuts, so if you start out hating them it’s only going to get worse. I also think you were crazy in the first place to agree to move in with people you had never met who have kids when you hate kids, but each to their own!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Don’t do it!!!! These people sound unreasonable and will be miserable to live with. Find somewhere else to live. Thank your husband’s boss, but let them know this situation isn’t going to work out for a multitude of reasons. Even if it’s going to cost a bit more to live somewhere else, as long as it’s within your budget, that would be worth it to not be constantly stressed out at home dealing with selfish roommates. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

This has “bad idea” all over it.  Find something else….anything else.

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