(Closed) How to look older?

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Unless you wanna cake on makeup and overdress, Just ignore it.  Youre 19.  Its bound to happen but it doesnrt matter what they think.  I had someone at work the other day tell me I look 13.  I’m 23.  Embrace looking young.  I know ppl looked at me that way while dress shopping.  It is what it is.  If anyone makes any snide remarks, take your business elsewhere. 

Post # 4
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3000 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Well, at 19 you are just a year or two older than high schoolers, so it’s not that uncommon to look like one. I’m 24 and people used to give me the “you’re getting married?!” look because they thought I was about 20.

Regardless of how old you LOOK, people will still give you odd looks since you are 19 and trying on wedding dresses. It’s just not that common to get married that young anymore.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Sorry — I’m in my 30s.  Even if you looked your age (almost 20) you would still look like you belong in high school.

That’s okay.  Own your age.  You are only young once. 

Post # 6
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3472 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I’m 23 and apparently I don’t look my age, most people assume I’m closer to 30, and when I’ve questioned it the most common response I get is because I dress conservatively, and I wear minimal/neutral toned make-up. 

I find when I wear pink tones & more flirty clothes I get carded at restaurants and things, but when I’m coming stright from work, and/or don’t bother with much make-up I never do, so I guess they’re right. 

Post # 7
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5969 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

You shouldn’t care what people think, but I get it….my daughter is the same way, just a teeney little thing with a baby face and sometimes when we’re out she doesn’t get treated the same way as someone who looks older might.  I would recommend an outfit overhaul, swap the regular t-shirt  for a fun, yet sophisticated top, add a light jacket, a bright scarf, throw your hair up in a loose french twist and sport some fun heels, neutral makeup with a shimmer lip gloss…voila!  +5 years easy!

Post # 8
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2591 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I’m 23 & look fairly young too.  I was actually told like a month or so ago that they thought I was 17 :[.  Sure, I was disappointed, but I certainly didn’t let it ruin my day!  If you’re mature enough to get married, be mature enough to not worry about how old people perceive you to such a sensitive extent!

Post # 9
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@juliette.eliza:  Same. I’ve never been asked about my age in a derogatory way, and I am pretty young (22.) However, I think I know why.

1. I don’t act my age. I’m not giggly or silly acting. I like to have fun and I’m pretty darn funny, but yeah.

2. I dress conservatively and always well put together (I wear a lot of blazers, even with jeans).

3. My hairstyle is not your typical “22 year old” hair, which I think is assumed to be the long hair that’s been curled? With the straight across bangs? No offense if that is you or other posters, it’s just the stereotype! I’ve heard it on here and I’ve heard it IRL, plus a lot of my friends…have that haircut. 

Also, my makeup is very, well, “grown up.” I wear neutrals like @juliette.eliza said, I don’t cake it on, I just make sure I’m only enhancing ME not trying to make a statement like a lot of my friends do. Make sense?

ETA: At the end of the day, you just have to own it. As you can see, even people on here have something to say and they can’t see you. It’s a sad reality, but it’s not changing. You don’t need anyone’s validation about your age or your choices. I find it best not to bring it up often or offer it as information. Many people on here would have no clue what my age was if I didn’t tell them. 🙂 However, I’m not ashamed of it. DH and I have been together for so many years that I’m not going to “feel bad” that I married before the average age.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am 31 and get carded everywhere…AND people ask me “What school do you go to?”  They assume I’m in college.  REGARDLESS of what I wear.

So whatever.  Just act like an adult and no one will care that you look young.  YOU need to stop caring what they think, too.

Post # 12
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582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am 25, I got carded at the movie theater going to see Ted and Magic Mike…worst part. When I was at the movie for Ted and my 22 year old brother and sister in law did not get carded…I always get that I look like I am in high school so I get it..people say enjoy it but it is not exactly a compliment to get told you look 15 when you are 10 years older than that it’s kind of an insult lol but at this point I guess I just have to deal with it, but i know what you’re feeling about wanting to look like a woman esp on your wedding day I was actually just talking about my fears of looking like a little girl on mine with my best friend the other day. haha

Post # 14
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5969 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@mepayne:  I sincerely think that like 90% of it is height…petite women are just treated like little kids cause they’re little…I’m an amazon, towering over the general pubic at a terrifying 6 feet, and let me tell you, people think twice asking how old I am, and the perfect retort to such an inappropriate inquiry is, “Old enough to know better.”

It’s a hard thing to explain, but being confident and owning your space makes a difference.

 

Post # 15
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Dress-wise, don’t got for a princessy ball gown. Unless you really want one.

Post # 16
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9143 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I got asked on my wedding day if it was my sweet sixteen party because I wore a red dress to the reception and looked really young (I was 23.)

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