Post # 1
I need your great ideas and opinions!
So we’re having a ginormous wedding – invited just under 500 people. FI is Italian and that’s just how it is and hey – its going to be a big ole party.
Personally, I’ve never been to a wedding this big. I am getting really nervous that I won’t get to have special time with anyone and people will leave feeling like it was impersonal – I’ve had this experience before at even a small wedding when we didn’t get to see the bride and groom.
Do you have any suggestions/have you had any experiences that help make a large wedding close and personal? I mean its not all possible but I want to do what I can.
We are having a receiving line, so at least I get to say hi to every single guest. I was thinking about having escort cards and writing a little note on the underside to say something…
Post # 3
This may be way too much for you guys to try and do, but I was at a wedding once that wasn’t quite as big as 500 guests, but I’d say it was between 150-200 and in the center of each table was a small little cake. The bride and groom went around and cut the cake at each table in order to have a little one-on-one time with each group and it was a fun way for everyone to be involved in the cake cutting experience (which I, personally have missed at numerous weddings!). They had a coordinator keeping tabs on them as they went from table to table just to make sure they didn’t end up spending like half an hour at each one, but I felt like it was sufficient time…especially for those guests you may not be super close with, but who you want to be sure and acknowledge. I’m sure there are many ways to make a larger wedding more personal, that’s just the most intimate way I’ve ever seen it done 🙂
Post # 4
No way to do it sorry. I just timed how long it would be to just say, “Great to see you. Thank you for coming ” and shake hands. For 500 people that is 42 minutes. And people will want to talk to you longer than 5 secs. If people talk to you for 10 seconds that means the last person would in line for almost 1.5 hours. I hope you will be serving people drinks in line!
If you spent 1 min with everyone, it would take you over 8 hours.
I think a short note would be nice, but still would feel impersonal unless you wrote very specific things.
I think you have to let go the expectation and desire to make a 500 person wedding personal.
Post # 5
I think it’s a much better idea to walk around between the tables, the receiving line sounds like it will be horribly boring for everyone attending.
I went to a small wedding (~70 guests) where the couple came around and poured a glass of wine for each guest, that was really nice. Then I went to a wedding last summer that was a 200 people affair. Once again, the couple came around to each table for a quick chat. I wouldn’t say it felt super personal, but I appreciated the effort.
Post # 6
It would be nice if you had a note on the table/numer card, you dont have to write 500.
you could name the tables after a town, some in italy, some where you are from. The relatives will joke about travelling from town to town and it will show that you are thinking about their heritage.
If your giving cards in the line, maybe you should give a gift tag to the guests also. Have them make a wish for you and hang it on a tree.
cant think of anything else, hope it works out.
Post # 7
@eocenia: Going to each table would be less boring for the guest as long as they are being served food. But if you have 10 people at a table, that is 50 tables. If you spent 5 mins at each table that would be 4 hours. You would have to spend 1 min at each table and that would still be about an hour.
You would def need to have someone in charge of steering you from table to table (the bad guy). Do it while people are eating.
Post # 8
For me a wedding feels personal when a bride and groom really seem to be in love and just so happy. Instead of worrying about attending to every guest and talking to every single person, just enjoy yourself and try to capture the nice moments with your FI.