Post # 1
My FH hates wearing a ring. He went through two rings (said both were too uncomfortable). Then he stopped wearing it. We had some talks and I explained how important it was to me. FH says he likes to wear a ring so he doesn’t get hit on, but doesn’t think it is that important, his father never wore a wedding ring, but since it was important to me, he agreed to try again. We went and got the most comfortable ring the store had. FH was not in a rush to pick it up (he works a ton) and this led to a fight – I should have just let it go and let him pick it up whenever. So he did pick it up today, and was wearing it this evening. He is super tired and stressed with some HUGE job stress and has a super important interview next week, and FH is so much less pleasant when he is stressed. I said that it looked nice, and he said, “It’s really uncomfortable, but whatever.” I felt hurt. I said, “well, thanks.” I really want him to just wear it and deal- my ring isn’t super comfortable but it’s really pretty and I think it’s important to wear. Do I just leave it alone? Do I let him know how hot it makes him? Do I just try to be extra nice so he is more willing to give it a chance? I am frustrated and just want FH to wear his ring.
Post # 3
I don’t have much advice, my husband always forgets to wear his too.
Post # 4
Leave it alone for now. You said he is under a lot of stress, which will definitely lead to an argument if you push it right now. Wait until his work schedule calms down a bit and ask him again when he has had time to relax. If you both give each other time to talk about it without either of you getting resentful or hurt over opinions, the outcome will be to both of your likings.
Post # 5
I would let him be for the time being. If he’s really stressed, nagging him about the ring will only make him hate wearing it more. Wait for a good time to discuss it.
Post # 6
Let him be for the moment. Stressing him out more and the both of you fighting over it is going to make it so you’re both going to be upset every time the ring is mentioned. When things have calmed down a bit then I’d talk it over again and ask him what he thinks. There’s lots of different “comfort” fits out there for him to try – or maybe it’s just that he’s not used to it.
Post # 7
I agree, maybe let him go try on rings he might find more comfy?
My guy wears his all the time. And even came home last week after work and said “my friend told me that women apparently find men who are taken more attractive (a guy at work said that)”…so, does my ring make me more attractive to you? (giggle)
My DH also said, that employers and clients find you more credible with the appearance of stability, thus being MARRIED and wearing your ring is a good sign for a dude (or dude-ette)! Maybe appeal to his practical side?
Post # 8
Maybe it isn’t about how comfortable, but the style of it. My hubby’s ring is black and he just thinks its so cool. lol. Maybe look at “cooler” rings. That is my only advice.
Post # 9
There are some really neat rings..I liked one I saw on etsy with the fingerprint inside of it..and some inlay rings too (hawaiian rings..made in hawaii? Think that’s where the etsy seller was). Very very cool inlays inside the gold or white gold. Trendy.
Post # 10
It takes a while to get used to something being on your body that wasn’t there before. Atleast he is trying to wear it for you. Maybe you can try a titanium ring (much lighter weight than other metals), or a thin mm width? I think the best approach is to not nag. It will only serve to make wearing the ring more of a chore. If he doesn’t wear it for a few days, don’t bring it up, you both already know how you feel about it. If you see him wearing it or even trying it on again without you asking- be super loving and give positive reinforcement… just like training a puppy 😛
Post # 11
I mean, I wouldn’t advise you to SAY this- but my thinking is:
We wear bras, pantyhose, and heels. We pluck, we shave, we wax. We bleed monthly, we have to wear tampons or pads. None of which are comfortable. Man. Up. Its a ring- you get used to it.
Post # 12
Ok- that isn’t helpful- it just drives me nuts sometimes to think we have to gently plod them along- there is a certain injustice to it- and clearly no way around it. *Stepping off soapbox* I agree with PaperCrane- that approach will probably work best.
Post # 13
I’m not sure. I bet when he wants to wear it for you as well as him he’ll make it a priority in his life. It may take time.
This makes me grateful for my DH who was super excited to wear his – hasnt taken if off yet!
Good Luck, I’m sure it’ll be fine!