(Closed) How to make out a cheque wedding gift

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: How would you address a wedding cheque?
    Jane Apple OR John Orange : (21 votes)
    68 %
    Jane Apple AND John Orange : (3 votes)
    10 %
    Jane AND John Orange : (3 votes)
    10 %
    I would address it to only one of them - the person I was closest to : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    12892 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    As someone who just got married, please use “or.”  It makes it SO much easier if the couple does not have a joint account.   We had couples made out to Mr. and Mrs. Last Name, and it was tough because (1) we didn’t have a joint account and (2) we had to appear at the bank together to deposit them.

    Post # 4
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Honey-Bee:  I would DEFINITELY do or unless you know for sure that she is changing her name. I didn’t change my name and as I learned when Darling Husband and I were cashing all our checks, it’s kind of a pain in the butt for the couple when “and” is written, even if the couple does have a joint account.  I don’t see any downside to “or” but “and” can be a pain.


    Post # 6
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I voted Jane OR John.

    But just FYI – If a couple is married, the man’s name is always written first. If a couple is NOT married, the woman’s name is first.

    Post # 7
    12892 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @Honey-Bee:  Yep, we had no trouble with the OR checks, but things made out to “Bride Last Name and Groom Last Name” were the biggest pain in the butt.  

    Post # 10
    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    i personally would make it out to the groom. only because the bride generally changes her name, and it would be more difficult if you used the wrong name. i’d add a “congrats to the happy couple” in the info line on the bottom of the check, too.

    Post # 11
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    This was a nightmare when we got married.

    Lots of people addressed checks as “Mr and Mrs His First His Last” and “His FIrst His Last and My First His Last”

    The problem is that I hyphenated when I married. The way they name me on the checks is not legally recognized. The checks were returned. We had to ask family/friends to write new checks.

    Use the first option.

    Post # 13
    496 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @colorofmyheart:  This is what I did for the last wedding I went to. I had no idea if she’d be changing her name or what so I just put the groom’s name down.

    I have another wedding coming up in a few weeks. Addressing the check to Bride OR groom Last Name would be okay?

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