Post # 1
How to choose “the dress.”
I have been dress shopping for many weeks now. Every shop I find a dress that I could visualize myself in on my wedding day. Each time I change my mind just a little bit on what I envision is the perfect dress. On Saturday, I had a moment. Tears in my eyes, smile from the soul, this is a life changing moment feeling. I was ready. Right then and there to buy it: but rather than reaching for the checkbook- I decided to sleep on it.
This salon allowed us to take photos (included). And of course I googled the dress once at home. Here comes the doubt! I am not wild and crazy about the photos of this dress. I absolutely loved it when it was on. However, I’m not sure I’m 100% after seeing the photos of myself in it. Even the photos of the model are not the most impressive.
I’m looking for some thoughts from those of you might know something about these feelings. Can I go with my gut? Or do I keep on looking?
Are the photos ‘off’ because the dress I held up by clamps?
So many questions! Thanks for your help : )
Post # 3
I think you should think about how you look vs. how you feel…when I chose my dress I was worried because it was not traditional or the most flattering (it is a sheath as opposed to something like an A-Line or ballgown that really emphasizes my waist)…BUT, it was the only dress that made me smile and dance around. I slept on the decision for a few days as well and sure enough I was back in the store a week later to put down a deposit. No need to rush it, but as cheesy as it sounds if you feel beautiful you really will look it. I know that choosing a different dress would not have made me smile nearly as much, and I would have fretted about it the whole day!
Post # 5
for what its worth, i think it photographs beautifully!
if you love it you should get it!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
You do look amazing in that dress! I think it is really gorgeous on you!
I’ve been having the same indecision with pictures – I like what I see in the mirror, but when I look back at the pictures I am not really blown away. Then again, it’s just been my mom taking the pictures, so a professional photographer will likely make you look even more amazing than what you see in the mirror.
I think you should definitely take a couple days to think about how the dress felt and made you feel, and take into account that once it is altered it will fit you even better. I’d go with my gut if I were you!
Post # 7
the shape is lovely on you!!
think of that reaction you had with it on, and note that it will look even better when perfectly altered!
Post # 8
I just read another thread about this dress!
The dress photographs ok, but some angles are definitely better than others. It’s just so hard to tell when you’re trying on a sample that’s not your true size. I do think that you should feel great, AND feel like you LOOK great in your wedding dress. The photos of you in this dress are what you’ll be looking at 10, 15, 30 years down the road.
In my opinion, if there’s any doubt, then you should keep looking. According to your date you have plenty of time to see what else is out there, and in the end if you come back to this dress than you won’t have any “what ifs” about it.
I chose the 3rd dress I tried on, and I’ve gone from “I love it,” to “I hate it” to “It’s perfect” to “It’s plain” and back again. If there is one thing I could do over during these last 8 crazy months, it would be to spend more time on my wedding dress. That’s just my 2 cents though.
Good luck and keep us posted 🙂
Post # 9
Ok. I just re-read. I didn’t notice that you said you’ve already been looking for weeks. If this was the one time you had a smiley soul and tears in your eyes then hunny, this is the one
Post # 10
Good Morning! I really appreciate your comemnts. I have never been very good at picking out my own clothes. Seriously, I buy things that dont fit or flatter. My mom and future mother in-law pick out clothes that fit me better than I can choose myself! So making the final decision of picking out the perfect dress- is a little overwhelming! Id be happy to keep you posted 🙂
Post # 11
I am in love with a dress that I have a photo of that I hated on and I bought that dress that I love in person but doubt when I look at the photos
don’t know if that helps anything
but photos will last longer
Post # 12
i feel our pain i own 2 dresses now and im wearing the last buy its a simple dress i dont think you can get any more basic lol but i dont love either i just dont feel good in anything so if i went with my gut i would get married in jeans so i guess once you have hair makeup and the happy glow it will make the dress hunny but girl with your figure you could wear a net curtain. heres mine
Post # 13
I just went through this same situation…kinda. I have been dress shopping since March about every two weeks, which starts to equal A LOT of dresses. I had many that I liked and thought wow this is very beautiful & this could be it! But then I would leave the dress shop and within 24 feel like I regretted those thoughts in my head. This week I went and tried on a few more dresses (I was alone, then I’m true to MY feelings about the dress and I didn’t feel like I was trying to please anyone else) I tried 3 on and then when the 4th came along, it was like “Oh my gosh I really like this.” *2 mins later* “OH seriously I love this quite a bit” *30 seconds later* “HOLY CATS I LOVE IT! *1 minute later* “This is the dress! I just know it!!’ I was completely smitten with it and although I had teared up once before, this dress sent me into full blown tears. I was sobbing like a baby from being so overwhelmed with happiness. After I had said ‘yes’ to my to my dress, they allowed pictures. I had the consultant take a few a long with a few I snapped of myself. Put the down payment down and walked away. Now it is 4 days later and I still LOVE LOVE LOVEEEEEEE my dress, but when I look at the pictures I think “wow that pic doesn’t look that great…” But then I remember many things: 1) this is shot in a tiny dressing room by some girl I just met. 2) I have no make up on and my hair looks stupid. 3) The dress isn’t even close to the same size as what I need. 4) This camera is crap. 5) It’s not my wedding day yet. And especially with that final thought, it made me realize that yes, I was extremely confident in my decision. Because you may not be America’s Next Top Model in your fitting room pics in a sample dress, but when It’s your day, You’re going to be all dolled up, radiating and being photographed by a REAL photographer (not to mention better lighting). I think if you had ‘that moment’ then you’ve found her. After trying on forever, it starts to feel a little overwhelming and hopeless I know. And side note: The stock photos, sometimes NEVER do a dress justice. SO don’t judge by that at all. The stock photos of my dress…I had actually looked through that dress designers collection online before and I hadn’t even given the dress I ended up purchasing a second glance.
I think the dress you have on is stunning and by all means, sleeping on it doesn’t hurt. I think you should maybe try on a few more, and if this one keeps sticking in your mind, and you’re finding hard to even think about committing to another dress, than this is the one for you. Give yourself a little time. I hope everything goes well! Keep us updated! 🙂
Post # 14
If you have time, then you can take it! No need to rush. But if this dress gave you tears, then it’s probably your dress. I think it just doesn’t look right on you becasue it’s clearly way too big. It’s a lovely dress and it definitely has a “wow” factor
Post # 15
I personally think it photographs beautifully, espceially on you! I looked at the pictures before I read what you wroet and thought, OMG she looks stunning! I think in the end the memorie sof you being happy in the dress and on the day and feeling like an angel/princess will be much stronger than the pictures anyways. But I still think it looks great in the pics too!
Post # 16
I think you look amazing in it