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i keep reading all of these things that say the wedding should be about you and your FI - well, how is that supposed to happen the the two of you are so utterly different? 

for example

Me - loves indie rock music and harder type rock stuff and jazz

Him - loves opera and show tunes (yes, really)

our wedding is turning into a series of compromises but that music playlist is gonna be pretty darn funny!  how are you handling this?

i tried to make our wedding center around things that we both like and made a few big compromises to make sure my partner feels included (because I could easily make this all about me but I really don't want to).  it's just funny how different we are!

we won't have showtunes at the wedding (but I think we will have an opera processonial and maybe a rock recessional) but then again, most people wouldn't want to hear a lot of the stuff I like b/c its too heavy and loud so we'll be tossing in a lot of crowd pleasers and peppering in our favorites.

@kelly -  I understand how you must feel - and although I am a bit on the rocker chick side of the fence, I don't think I'd want my honey in a black "pimp"suit - he's not going to wear black though he's talking about brown or beige - he's got very classic taste. 

Actually I think silver and cranberry would look awesome with black and maybe you could do white/cranberry florals? check out the perfect palette blog - was looking for you and didn't see anything yet but they have great ideas!

@RXBride - at first, he didn't want to really be involved in the details but I didn't think that was fair to either of us.  I like wedding planning now but I really did not like it at first!

i like pretty unusal stuff  and my partner is more simple, modern and streamlined in his tastes.  but i am finding that for the wedding, i am really liking simple things!

But I hear what you are saying - making it about "us" was kind of hard so what I have been doing is trying to focus on the things we both agree on or like.  For example, the Vegas wedding was his idea but I was happy to compromise on that b/c I also really like Vegas.  Our venue kind of has a "sci-fi" look to it and we are both into sci fi as well as modern design. 

A lot of it has been mostly trying not to make choices my partner will object to - but he does seem to actually like a lot of things i suggest that i thought he might not!

My husband & I tend to have very different music tastes also. He listens to old school rap & hip hop and I listen to a lot folk-y music. We tried to pick bands/genres we both like (reggae) and go from there. What we ended up doing for music selections was to have our guests each request a few songs and build the playlist from there, so that everyone had at least one song that they love!

 As long as you both feel you're tastes are represented then it'll reflect you as a couple. Try to think if you both love a certain food & serve it (for us it was BBQ), use your favorite colors for decor, etc. I also let him pick out whatever he wanted to wear (including skater shoes) and he ran with it. I hated the tie he picked out, but HE picked it out, so I bit my tongue and went with it. He still looked really handsome though :)

@ms camera - great advice thank you - i think getting music suggestions from our guests is a great idea too!  we have a very small wedding so everyone actually might be able to hear a song!