Post # 1
I always pictured myself getting married in a church. It didn’t have to be to another Catholic, or someone who even believed in God, but it was always in a church. FH isn’t religious, at all. I don’t think I’d even call him spiritual.
I’m having a hard time trying to figure out how to go about having a wedding in a church that isn’t all about God, so as not to make him feel uncomfortable. Has anyone done this? Can this even be done?
Post # 3
You might look at a Unitarian Universalist church. They are often willing to work with you to have a ceremony that works for the two of you, rather than insisting on a particular level of religious references. And they typically do not require that you be a member.
Post # 4
Thanks! I actually found one place in the area where we’re getting married, and I think it’s a UU church. 🙂
Post # 5
You may also be able to find churches in your area that aren’t associate with religions (here in New Jersey, there are some churches that are affiliated with colleges, and you could do any kind of ceremony in them, if you bring in your officiant).
UU churches are another good place to look, and you may want to look at freelance officiants / Celebrants in your area too (http://www.CelebrantInstitute.org) if you find a church space to use but need to bring into your own officiant – they’ll work closely with you to create the ceremony with as much or as little religion as you’d like to include (it was where I was trained as an officiant).
Post # 6
Thanks for the link, Jessie! Checking it out right now 🙂
Post # 7
I don’t know about your area, but there are several ‘heritage’ churches in my area which are not currently used as churches. For example, there is a pioneer village which has 2 church buildings you can use for weddings which don’t regularly have services.
Post # 8
I know you found a place, Dizzy, but for anyone else in similar situations… if you’re in a university town check to see if they have a chapel; if they do, most likely it’s non-denominational and you can bring in any officiant you want.
Post # 9
I 3rd the UU church. They believe in religion being very personal and they will customize your ceremony any way you like. They can even do civil ceremonies.