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Does it have to be at Christmas? Can you go before when airfare will be cheaper?
If it has to be Christmas can you take more time off and fly say Thursday - Tuesday when airfare will be slightly cheaper?
While the cost of the airfare is crazy around Christmas. Will it get offset by the gifts you will potentially get? VS not having a shower and buying those items yourself?
@regberadaisy: The only time that I could make it work is the week between Christmas and New Year's, which is the worst time for an additional event.
The tickets are about 300.00 a person, which isn't terrible, but if I tried to get DH to go, and then boarded my dog, we're looking at close to 1000.00 for a trip, which is not something we do very often at all.
When we went for our wedding last year, the tickets for both of us were 400.00 total, I just wish I could find a deal like that!
How about having it where you currently live? I am having my shower when we go "home" for Thanksgiving. We were driving home anyway, plus my husband only has to take an extra day off. It would save us more money if we didn't have to worry about the going back and forth, plus I wouldn' t be too far along when I traveled.
I don't know what airports you are flying from or to, but if you fly out on Christmas day itself, and back on the 27, 28, or 29th, the fares are their lowest this year.
Would you have any local friends that you would want to invite that are close enough that you feel would fly out for your shower with you?
@regberadaisy: Heh, no. It's just DH and myself out here, and we are SO not Arizona people so we haven't really made that many friends, and certainly none that I would invite without feeling like a total gift-grabber.
As it is, my Mom just said that if I couldn't make tickets fit in my budget, she would just buy them for me, and bonus, she doesn't believe in the discount sites, so it would be a much nicer seat than I ever would pay for.
Maybe it might happen after all, and even if there's no shower, at least I could see my Mom and Sisters at Christmas!
Since your husband can't come, I would just have the shower where your mom lives and if people can come, great. It seems like for you that would be the easiest and that's what is important at that stage. If people want to send a gift if they can't attend then they can but that time of year is so busy that I don't think you're going to have backlash doing what is easiest for you.
@Quietserenity:We;re doing a shower AFTER baby, in part because it's cultural, in part because our family is ALL OVER, too, just like yours.
Plus I'd prefer to hang out with family with the baby to show off...
It can definitely be complicated with family all over the US- not ideal, but here is our solution:
We have a family wedding in a couple of weeks in Ohio, my in-laws set up a small family shower for the morning after the wedding (so sweet of the bride to be cool with this!). Then we are off visiting family and friends around the mid-west for the rest of that week (hardly a vacation, but I can't wait to see a little greenery- you know how it is out here in AZ... and to get out of these 90 degree days).
Because one shower is more than I know I can deal with, we are having an official baby meet and greet party in later February (he is due in early January) for my side of the family, friends, co-workers, etc. Probably too adventurous for our own good, but my MIL will have the house tackled by that point, so we shouldn't have to worry about more than supplying some pizza and beer and baby.
My husband's cousin and his wife had a cyber shower- we all planned on sending stuff on one weekend for a virtual shower. We didn't have skype at the time, but we all texted, e-mailed, and called and it turned out pretty cool!
Regardless, hang in there, you will have people dying to see your little one afterwards, anytime is worth it.
PS- once the kids are here and we all get settled, we should see about getting together for an outing, being that you are in Chandler too, right?
@lemondrop: Yep, I am in Chandler! That would be great, I don't really know anyone here except a couple of DHs coworkers, and that's...you know, not ideal.
LOL... I have no useful advice, but my first thought was you were wondering how to take a shower while pregnant. My second thought is "OMG... we'll have to move cause I WON'T fit in our shower when pregnant and I never thought of that!!"
:)
@piglet_625: LOL, that made me laugh. Which is nice, since I just had a hormonal bitch fit that our front door was dirty, and started scrubbing it in the dark...
I'm a weirdo.
@piglet_625: Haha I actually thought the same thing for a second..
@Quietserenity: We had the same issue with my shower, and actually moved it up so it's more convenient for my mom and sister to come to throw it here where I live. It sucks though because in the perfect world, I'd have a shower in my hometown so my side of the family and friends there could come. the holidays make it way too difficult and also expensive to do, though. So we will probably have either a "Meet the baby shower" shortly after he/she arrives.. and we might do the christening there too or instead. Are there other options like that? Oh, and no, I wouldn't vote for your moms idea with the webcam.. that does sound lonely and could probably be construed by some as being the dreaded t-word. :) But if she is willing to pay for even one of your flights and that makes it more do-able, I'd take her up on it!
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So my family has been wanting to throw me a shower, which is nice. But they've been asking me to figure out the logistics, and I'm stuck.
I live in Arizona. DHs family lives in Oklahoma, and my family lives in Indiana, TN, and NY.
The majority of them live in Indiana, so that's where it makes the most sense to have it, but a plane ticket around Christmas (which is when it would probably be) isn't in the budget this time around, and I'd have to go without DH, due to his work schedule.
My doctor WOULD let me fly in January, but I don't feel comfortable flying at 7 months pregnant without DH, which is what that would come to.
I suggested having it after the baby is born, but they said at that point, why even bother? My mom suggested just asking people to send presents and then doing like a webcam shower, but that sounds SUPER RUDE, not to mention extremely lonely and pathetic.
Is there maybe something I'm missing here? I mean, I'd really like to have one, but I don't want to exhibit bad manners to do it, so...