(Closed) How to mellow out the week before the wedding? Need help!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Go to the gym or do Yoga.  Do something that forces you not to think about the wedding and that helps YOU, as a person, to feel good and energized.

Post # 4
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think what calms people is really personal to you and what works for one person might not work for another. However, if I were you I would make a list of EVERYTHING that needs to be done in a general order of importance. Then mark down which day this week you plan to do it. (or maybe do it by day, and then by order of importance). And I do mean EVERYTHING, even the little stuff. The reason for that is because if “go to the drugstore” is on your list and you do it, you get to cross something off and see that things are getting done. It is kind of mind thing. It helps to see things getting crossed off. And I would break everything down too. So for programs I’d have “set up printer / print programs / assemble programs.” Once everything is listed just take a DEEP breath and get started. You can only go as fast as you can, and if you start with the higher priority stuff and some low priority stuff gets left by the wayside, well, you’ll still be married. 🙂

Post # 5
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7771 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I really feel ya!  I just went through this.  I did not sleep the week before the wedding.  At all.  And that just ruins my personality and gives me more anxiety!  I was kind of a mess.  All I can tell you is that it will be worth it, you will be happy in the end, you will survive.  People will be there to help you shortly, yes?  I had no one to help me, at all, and I was literally sewing repairs on my dress on wedding day, doing my own hair!!!!  I actually got sick I was so stressed on wedding day!  When people show up, can you delegate tasks?  Is there somewhere you can go for a swim?  Can you take a night off and see live music and get a pizza with FI? 

Post # 6
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6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I totally agree with CorgiTales.  Lists are what keep me in check, it is such a reassuring, positive thing to be able to see things crossed off the list.  I know it will be hard if you dont get somethings done, but really, once the day is here and your saying I DO, none of that will matter.  Enjoy these last couple days as best you can.  Cross a few things off the list and breath!  In the end you will have a great wedding day!

Post # 8
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

First of all, a big ((((((((hug))))))))). Second. Take a breath. Exhale. Repeat. Lower your shoulders. I bet they’re all up around your ears right now.

Now. You’re having all these people show up tomorrow. Do what Corgi suggested and make yourself a big ole list. Look at that list and see what you can delegate to people who are showing up tomorrow. Can your mom do your laundry? Do you have a tech savvy BM or uncle who can set up your printer and print off your programs? Be firm about timelines and deadlines for when things need to be done. It’s okay to ask for help and to put people to work! You can’t be expected to deal with all the little details AND entertain everyone the week before the wedding.

Take another breath. It’s going to be okay. And don’t worry, I cry when I get overwhelmed with any kind of emotion too! It’s awful, but it also pulls heartstrings, so make it work for you 😉   (I cried on Christmas when I broke my favourite serving platter because there were too many people in the kitchen and I was uber stressed out. Then somehow that ended up with my mom saying jokingly that I was pregnant which made FMIL flip out thinking she was about to have another grandbaby, and then I had to start screaming at everyone that I wasn’t pregnant and to get the hell out of my kitchen, all the while crying from stress. Finally things calmed down and then FI comes in and starts telling me how my recently deceased Grandmother would have been so proud of me, etc. Cue more tears. Now my whole family thinks I have an unnatural emotional attachment to dishware and I can’t make a turkey without thinking about my dead grandma. However, I think I’m forever excused from making Christmas dinner ever again. No one wants me to cry or yell at them or do both at the same time any more. Are you laughing yet?!)

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