Post # 1
So, this might be kinda far away, but I was just curious as to how you guys memorialized those who had passed at your wedding. My dad passed away when I was 14, so it’s very important to have something there to remember him, same with my grandparents who passed a few years ago. I dont’ want anything big or elaborate but I was thinking maybe a chair with a sign on it saying “I know you’d be here today, if heaven wasn’t so far away.” and maybe just a picture or two?
Post # 2
futuremrstx: You could do that or have a memorial table with pictures at the reception.
Post # 3
We bought a personalized memorial candle that was on the altar, (can find really neat custom ones on eBay or Etsy), as well as a mention in the program. I also like your idea of the chair!
Post # 4
I’m sorry about your dad. My husband had lost his mother, and she was mentioned in his speech.
We didn’t mention grandparents at all. It would have turned rather morbid because 6 of the 8 had died. Personally I think it’s a bit over the top to memorialise grandparents, unless you were extremely close to them.
Post # 5
We are having a small table with memorial vases that will hold a lit floating candle in them for my grandmother and FI father. We decided not to do pictures because I dont think I would be able to handle it since my grandmothers passing is still very recent.
Post # 6
One of my best friends lost her mother when she was a little girl. During the ceremony, she decided to have an empty chair in the front row next to her father’s seat, the aisle seat, and when she walked down the aisle with her father she paused to put a rose there in honor of her mom. It was really sweet and her officiant mentioned it during the ceremony as well.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
saraja87: I love this! I wish I would have thought to do something similar!
I am sorry for your loss, I know how tough it can be to lose a parent, especially in times like these. My mom passed away a few years before our wedding; I had a picture of her on a small locket in my bouquet. The officiant was supposed to say something along the lines of “thank you all for coming to the union of so and so, we remember those who cannot be here with us today, especially the bride’s mother, Gloria” But there was some miscommunication and he omitted the especially part, which still bugs me to this day.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Runnymede Hotel
I recently saw this on Off Beat Bride which I thought was very sweet and touching:
We do not have any close relatives who have passed, but we will be having a table set up with wedding pictures of people in our families, including both sets of grandparents who are no longer with us, though we weren’t close.
Post # 9
futuremrstx: hey there,
my father passed away when I was 13, so I know how hard it can be.
I did a few things:
-I mentioned him in our wedding programs with a little poem (I didn’t not write this, I found it online) – I also listed my godparents and my DHs grandmother
Although we cannot see you-We know that you are here -Smiling down, watching over us<br />As we say “I DO” –Forever in our hearts –Forever in our lives –And so we say our vows in In loving memory of you (List the names of the deceased)
-I also had a charm made on Etsy that had a picture of my father and I and I attached it to my bouquet for when I walked down the aisle so I felt like he was walking with me!
-Last, I made a video montage to be played at the reception. Everyone loved it!
Hope this helps you.
Post # 10
futuremrstx: We are doing a picture table next to the signing table as people walk through the doors. I plan on also getting a candle and lighting it in the middle. We aren’t labelling anything but just something quiet thats there to honour our loved ones who can’t physically be present for the wedding.
Post # 11
I am having a table of photographs. I was incredibly close to my Nana and Grandmother, so I am definitely going to mention them. They were a massive part of my life and they deserve to be mentioned in my ceremony. I’m also asking for a moment of silence to remember them during the ceremony.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I had a picture of mom attached to my bouquet and my now-husband mentioned her in his speech with a toast.
Post # 13
We are doing something like for our grandparents who are no longer with us (his mom’s parents, and my dad’s parents). On a table, I am putting up pictures of both of them from their wedding day (if my FI can have his mom find her parents), and putting a sign that says something to the effect that you’re still here, even though you’re not with us. I found a great saying on some site, but can’t remember it for the life of me!
I’d also like to have a vase of favorite flowers, or flowers that remind us of our grandparents on the same table.
Post # 14
- Wedding: Royal Park Hotel
We had a nice memorial table set up with pictures, flowers and candles near the entrance with a nice custom made sign. It was sweet and not morbid or anything. We also had our officiant make mention of those that had passed. It was only 3 names so, again, it was appropriate.