How to nicely let an overactive bm know she is doing too much?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sweet5k:  OK for starters, I sat during my reception for the entire meal. In fact I’ve been to over 20 weddings and I can’t remember one where the bride didn’t get to sit. Start a poll on Wedding Bee if you want, your mom and BM are being ridiculous. I think they are bluffing, pretending they know more than they are.

BM is wrong about hair too. While I admit this is regional, most people on Wedding Bee agree you can’t require your BMs to pay to have their hair done professionally. And it’s nice for you to pay for it. Trust me on this: even if etiquette says something, niceness trumps etiquette.

Go shopping without her. Calmly explain it is your wedding and you want to choose things. Let her get angry. If she bosses you around then she is not a good friend.

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