How to NOT badger your bridesmaids?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

MrsHistory-Bee:  I’m confused…are you asking a question? I would just text or call your BMs individually. It seems to be a surefire way to get a reply without worrying about extra downloaded apps. Plus, I prefer to talk to all of my girls individually anyway because usually wedding related activities require a discussion of finances, which ought to be spoken about individually and privately.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsHistory-Bee:  Can’t you just text them separatedly? How many messages need to be relayed anyway? Hey guys, I’m getting married on this day at this time, this is the dress I picked for you so go get it?

I’m sorry, no offense but I just really don’t see the point to have to keep them constantly in the loop. 

I have 10 bridesmaids and if I have a question I text 1 or 2 girls, if I have a message to send, I send them all a group text which has happened maybe twice? and I get married next month (not through an app). 

Just saying

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

MrsHistory-Bee:  We have a FB group with my maids. Is that an option? Sometimes it still takes a day or two for everyone to answer, but it works the best for me.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

MrsHistory-Bee:  i can tell you from experience using GroupMe, it sucks.  the kills your battery, shuts down randomly and even will shut down your phone.  use facebook, everyone has it. also realize they don’t need to hear every idea or approve of every idea.  they just have to be good friends and show up in the right dress.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How not to badger your bridesmaids? Don’t badger your bridesmaids.

As long as they know the date, time, and dress, they’re good. They don’t need a group texting app on their phones specifically for your wedding.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I don’t know, I would just try to talk to them using your usual means of communication (text, Facebook, phone, email, whatever) instead of trying to add in an extra complication.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

just text them AS NEEDED.  what could you possibly need to discuss that often regarding the wedding?  carry on with normal life, talk to them about the lives they are living too, if every time you reach out its about wedding stuff, they will grow to resent you and ignore to on purpose.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I would say call, email, or text once and then its up to your BM to respond or not.  If they don’t respond and don’t have a dress, then they’re not in the bridal party.  I find that it’s human nature to respond to the things that we want to respond to and to not respond to the things that we don’t want to respond to.  If they’re not responding, then they probably don’t want to.  Now, of course, they should never have agreed to be bridesmaids in the first place, but no reason to frustrate yourself by asking multiple times through multiple forms of communication.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

if the person needs measurments, get them up front, in one sitting.  but there shouldnt be a lot of constant back & forth 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

MrsHistory-Bee:  I had that with one BM too… turns out she didn’t want to actually be in the wedding. We talked about it, she said she didn’t have the time or money to commit (perhaps even jealous? She’s been with her bf for like 5 years, I got engaged in under a year, she mentioned once that if I got engaged before her she would be upset). Anywho… maybe try giving her an ‘out’?

I’m a pretty busy person too, outside of my wedding, but I still find time for my commitments. No one avoids things they’re excited about.

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