Post # 1
So, we were married three weeks ago and as we discussed I went off BC on Wednesday this week!! Yessssss no more Mirena (surprisingly painless removal). After the wedding planning and everything it seems the next thing to obviosuly fill in the void is babies… when I say that I mean instead of looking and wedding planning I’m looking at baby planning, on the bee and blogs and stuff. We are leaving for the honeymoon next week and I’m hoping for a honeymoon baby.
DH works, alot. I work casually from hom – I try to do yoga and see friends and manage the house and things but I am much less busy than him.
My question, because I can see myself going this way, is how not to get obsessed with baby making? I’d like to have a normal, natural progression that isn’t forced and doesn’t become emotionally charged or mechanical. I’d hate this to become an issue at the beginning of our marriage.
Any tips/perspective for managing my baby-crazy brain?
Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 4
@bella128: DH and I just started trying last month (it was a spur of the moment decision, though I’ve been off BC since Feb. We were using other protection until last month.) I was a WRECK the entire 2WW. I swore I was pregnant. Every mood swing, ache, twinge was a “sure” sign I was pregnant.
Then I wasn’t.
So, this month, I decided not to worry. At all. It sounds really hard, but in all honesty, it wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. I’m a teacher, so I’m not working right now so I decided to throw myself into excerising, crocheting for my Etsy shop, and spending time with my friends while DH is at work. When I feel something a little weird, I think back to last month and remember that I was a horrible symptom spotter and that if I’m pregnant, I’m pregnant…if I’m not? Well, then I’m not. There’s always next month.
Of course, I have moments of sheer panic. “What if something is wrong with me? What if something is wrong with DH?” Then I tell myself, “You’ve only been trying for a month, really. So CALM DOWN!” I think if you make a real effort to NOT be a total spaz and obsessed, it does help. I actually didn’t allow myself to come on to these boards until earlier this week. I felt like it was making everything worse.
Post # 5
I was definitely obsessive my first month, because it was so new and exciting, but then we didn’t get pregnant. I got less obsessive as the months went by, but I’m not gonna lie, I still worried and planned and whatnot. I don’t think you can turn it off completely, but try to enjoy other things without basing every decision on “if we conceive this month.” Good luck!
Post # 6
I also obsessed the first month and coming off of BC I had EVERY pregnancy symptom in the book. And then I got my period. Talk about a let down. I had to stay away from the Bee because I was insane reading all the boards, posting on them, reading about charting, temping, CM, etc. It made me nuts. We got to the point where I just stopped thinking about it. Then I got pregnant lol. Good luck to you!!