- 2 years ago
First post, LONG! I’ve been obsessed (key word here) with reading WeddingBee for the last few weeks and I’ve finally decided to make an account. I think I may need some support from other bees in relaxing a little and learning to enjoy this waiting period. A little history first, I’ve officially been with my SO just over 8 months. We met online and at first I wasn’t super into it and I came close to breaking up with him, what was I thinking?! I’m glad I stuck it out because now I know this is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. It’s crazy to even write those words! At first I thought he was sort of goofy and awkward but now those are the qualities that make him so special to me. He is the sweetest, kindest, most loving man and never has a cross word for me even when I’m cranky. He makes me want to be the best girlfriend, and wife, and mother I can be. He is tall and handsome and strong but not cocky. We never fight, we balance we each other and if something is wrong we talk about it. We want to be together forever and make lots of beautiful babies. It hasn’t been all rainbows though, we are working through some things and trying to get on the right track. He has had issues with E.D. most of his adult life that has made it difficult for him to feel confident around women and he has gone through bouts of depression and LONG “drought” periods if you catch my drift. While he thought it was shyness and performance anxiety I have discovered that it is most likely his dependence on certain internet activities that kept him from feeling lonely but turned into a spiral of addiction. We are working through it, are both 100% on board, and our sex life is improving! yay! Now to the good part, the RING. I have finally figured out what type of ring I want and we went to try some on. We are actually having it custom made so last weekend we went to the store to hammer out some final details. While we were there I made the mistake of saying that I didn’t want to be involved in the process anymore and now I’m regretting that! I’ve shown him so many pictures of what I want and I’m way too anal to just let him pick on his own. Now when I ask him what direction he is going he laughs and smiles at me and tells me don’t worry it will be beautiful but with a devilish glint in his eye! I think the reason I freak out a little is because he likes certain things that I know I wouldn’t in a ring, like a walrus theme! I know for a fact he almost bought me a walrus jewelry box for christmas but his friend’s wife (who is making the ring) stopped him! I’m trying to not pressure him or tell him flat out to just get the one I asked for. I’m trying to NOT obsess but it’s soooo hard. I know he wants to make me happy and that whatever I get will be gorgeous. In the end, I just want to be engaged to him. I guess after this super long introductory post what I’m asking is….how do I let go and not obsess about this ring?