Post # 1
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now, and we’re both 25. We live together and are totally in love. We talk about getting married and have decided one day we’d like a destination wedding. We talk about the future and kids, all that stuff. The thing is that he’s working to pay off his school debt/save money, and I am going back to school for nursing. So, it’s not gonna be for awhile until he proposes. ATLEAST one year. I just need tips on how to patiently wait. I don’t want to try and convince him or give him an ultimatum. I’m just thinking about how much I want to get engaged/married, and sometimes it drives me crazy! I need help on how to forget about it for now.
Post # 3
Don’t post on Wedding Bee! You’ll drive yourself nuts. Just don’t think about it. Focus on school, focus on being 25 (I am jealous kinda), focus on YOU. =)
PS Sometimes when I try to write a smiley face it comes out like this -) and I think, cyclops!
Post # 4
I kept myself busy with my friends, I took some classes at the local community college and met new people. I think he got scared that I was out to find myself and he would not be included. lol
and also what she said 🙂 @peachacid:
Post # 5
If you’re going back to school for nursing, you will be plenty busy! Just hang in there until then.
Post # 6
Honestly, as much as I love the Bee, I was TORTURING myself with it before I got engaged. The more I read on here, the more I thought about marriage, and the more I nagged my FI, and the more he pushed back the proposal so I’d actually be surprised when he did it. I know its easy to say now that I’m on the other side of things.. but put your energy into your schooling, friends, exercise, and maintaining the relationship that makes you want to marry your SO in the first place. Its okay to gently talk about the future to make sure you are both on the same page, but if you already know you will be getting engaged in the forseeable future, don’t nag him! Good luck 😉
Post # 7
@memo: I waited for 8.5 years (we met at 18/19 i’m now 27).. it took me until 6 years before I started to get the point across to him and it took FI another year and a half before he had the cash for the ring!… I just kept imagining how happy i’d be with my ring knowing i’d be engaged, i.e driving my car – seeing my ring finger and thinking – one day… and sure enough after enough patience it appeared – and still to this day – when i drive my car – i glance at my ring and think – every moment waiting was worth the wait. Hang in there and make them most of every special moment.
Post # 8
@emmylouloubobells: I may be in a similar situation as yours. It’s good to know others have been through the same things. To add salt to the wounds 2 of my friends got engaged yesterday. Both relationships are shorter times than mine. I am happy for them. I really am. I just can’t wait for my time.