Post # 1
I’m curious how everyone is paying for their wedding. Are your parents pitching in? Your parents paying for the whole thing? You paying for the whole thing? Are you saving? Are you taking out a loan?
Our parents said they’d pitch in but they take that as they also get to plan the whole thing. We’ve decided we’d like to just pay for the whole thing ourselves so they can’t use the paying as an excuse to add 100 people to the guest list bc they are pitching in. We plan on saving a lot – but i’m curious to see what people think about taking out a loan? Is that a crazy to consider for a one day party?
Post # 3
My parents paid about 75%, we paid 20%, and his parents about 5%. My parents gave the money with no strings or demands about the wedding, but I have asked their opinions all along anyway.
I definitely would never recommend taking a loan and going into debt for a party (albeit, an important party, but nevertheless, it’s a party).
Post # 4
We are saving his parents are giving us money to help but with that does come with them wanting to have too much opinions on everything! My parents are not giving us money but paying for things like the cost of the church, my dress, favours etc. I would not recommend going into debt to pay for a “party”.
Post # 5
Both my FI and I have a lot of money saved up. We saved for our house and never ended up using it because we managed to save money on top of it during the months we were waiting to move. We also plan on putting away every penny we can in the months leading up to the wedding. We haven’t heard from his parents, but my parents have given us an amount that they are willing to contribute as well.
I definitely do not want to take out a loan, and I have told my parents that they better not either!
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
My parents paid 33%, FI’s parents paid 20% and FI and I are paying for the rest (including my dress and HMoon) which I do not count into the percentages and wedding “cost”
Post # 7
my mom doesn’t have a lot of money so she isn’t able to help (which is fine). My fiance’s mom gave us $5k and we’re paying for the rest (10k budget)
Post # 8
I would say now that the wedding is getting closer (and we’ve paid for a lot of things) that my FI and I are paying for 70% and his parents are paying for 15% and my parents are paying for 15%.
Post # 9
My fiancé and I are paying for the whole thing ourselves. We set our budget based on what we would be able to afford cash which in turn means that we’re saving. We’ve gone our whole lives debt free (minus mortgage and car financing) so we don’t plan on starting for the wedding.
My parents offered to take care of the element of the wedding we choose (ie flowers, cake, dress, etc). My fiancé and I aren’t the type to ever bring it up and ask for them to pay so if they offer again, then maybe but we’re not banking on them pitching in.
Post # 10
We’re paying for 65%, my parents are pitching in the other 45%, and his parents are hosting the rehersal dinner (although I wouldn’t be shocked if they bailed on this and we had to foot the tab). We’re just cutting out all unnecessary spending– no more eating out, date nights consist of walks in the park or other free things, no vacations until our honeymoon, and we’re thinking about ditching our expensive cable plan and just using Netflix to save an additional $150 per month. Our budget is around $24,000 and we didn’t have a red cent saved beforehand, so we’ve got 16 months to come up with a little over $13,000 to pay our share.
Because of what my parents are contributing, I’ve told them that they get to help determine the guest list, but they’re aware that of the 150 we’re inviting, they’ll probably only get to dictate 15 of those. We’re having such a large wedding to accomodate their families, anyway. Their friends list will just have to get cut down.
And I really do not recommend taking out a loan. It’s one thing to have a loan for your house, your car, or your college degree– those are all (mostly) tangible things that you’ll continue to have for a long time. A wedding is over in 6 hours most of the time, and do you really want to be continuing to pay for something that’s already happened years after the fact?
Post # 11
We were prepared to pay for the whole thing out of savings, but my parents ended up paying for the recpeption – about 45%.
Post # 12
We paid for most of the wedding ourselves (over 90%) with my parents pitching in the rest. We had a 15-month engagement, in part because we wanted to pay for the whole thing in cash. We did it!
Personally, I would not take out a loan. I loved loved loved just about every aspect of our wedding, but I think part of my enjoyment is knowing we worked really hard to pay for it and it would take away from my happiness if we were strapped with loan payments now.
Post # 13
You don’t want to start a marriage with the debt of the wedding on your back.
With that in mind I don’t make much money but my fiance does so he conrtibutes more to our fund than I can and his parents also contribute more than HE does so essentially the venue for ceremony and reception will be paid for by his parents and the vendors and decorations will be paid for by FH and I. I am eternally grateful for all the help we’ve gotten even from my brothers and my father who contributed whatever they could but NO ONE who has helped has any demands. His parents tell us to invite everyone close to US not close to them or coworkers.
Post # 14
We’re using money that we saved for most of our wedding budget. My mom helped with my dress ($1k) and his mom helped with photography ($2k). We are paying for our own rehearsal dinner though, and the remainder of the wedding ($12k). We only budgeted with money that we had, and even though it’s not a large budget, we’d rather not go into debt for our wedding.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@sarg88: We saved up so we can pay for it ourselves. My FH took on an additional job for a few months to save the bulk of the wedding money and now we are saving for the honeymoon.
Post # 16
Me and FI will be paying our invites – wedding attire – wedding rings – flowers – alcohol and decorations.
The foods – Dinner reception – Musician and Church and Priest will be paid by FI’s parents (They are divorced) My mom is all alone and can’t help, but I know she would love to, and to be honest it’s the thought that counts.
ETA: I also forgot to say that we are saving for a house, so we are doing that at the same time as we are buying the wedding-things we need along the way. No biggie. No credits, loans etc. Everything paid in cash.