How to phrase reason for move without sounding flaky?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@pittobos:  You could just say partner or significant other instead of boyfriend or husband 🙂

Post # 4
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@pittobos:  Lie and call him your fiance? Or you could just call him by his name… Definitely explain that you foresee yourself staying in the new city for a long time because of your SO’s job prospects.

You could also say that although you love your current job and cannot complain about it all, the area was not working out for you. You’ve always felt drawn to the new place and blah blah blah.

Post # 5
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@pittobos:  I would just say you’re moving because you are interested in the opportunities in your field in that city. Say you want to learn and grow and gain more experience with xxx part of the job you applied for. There’s no need to give them the real reason. 

Post # 6
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Two years of job history wouldn’t make me think you jump quickly.  I would just be honest.  “I am relocating due to my boyfriend’s work.”  I don’t think that sounds flaky at all.

Post # 7
1155 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You could also just say that you are relocating for family/personal reasons and are excited about the chance to explore new opportunities in Whatever City. It is still perfectly honest. No need to even make it about a romantic partner and open up the door for people to judge you based on a “boyfriend” not being serious/committed enough.

On a side note, I feel you on the negative judgment of LDRs not being serious enough if you’re “just” boyfriend & girlfriend. We did that mess for 3 years before we were able to move back in together, and like you, we were waiting for career/financial stars to align before prioritizing marriage. It’s no fun. Best of luck to you!

Post # 8
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@kenziemt:  +1

I wouldn’t even bring that up, I’d just say thatyou were looking for a new opportunity etc etc… Or say that “family” brought you there and you intend to stay there indefinitely

Post # 9
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve moved twice for my husband’s job (the first time we had been together about 5 years but weren’t engaged yet) and I just said that my boyfriend/significant other had gotten a great job opportunity which was bringing me to this new city. No one batted an eye at that response.

Post # 10
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I totally understand what you mean and would have the same concern. Of course, what you are doing is not flaky at all but they don’t know that. You could say fiance, but then if you get the job and then they think you’re engaged, that could be weird.

I would say something like “As much as I love my current job, I’m ready for to move up and my boyfriend of 6 years live here, so we’d like to live in the same city before getting married.” Then doesn’t leave “boyfriend” open for interpretation. If the job isn’t “moving up,” just say something about learning a new industry, taking on more responsibility, or anything to suggest that a new job will be beneficial to more than just your relationship.

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