Post # 1
I am currently in a LDR with SO of 5.5 years (we are 25 and have been LD for 1.5 years). We know we will get married eventually, but he just graduated grad school and started his first job, so we would like to get his finances in order first. Right now, we’re much more concerned with ending the LDR part of the relationship than getting married.
I have a great job in my current city, but his industry is fairly small, so I will be moving to him. I am concerned about sounding flaky in an interview if why I am leaving a perfectly good job that I enjoy comes up. I am afraid to say I am moving because of a boyfriend, because even though I know we will get married, boyfriend sounds uncommitted, I guess. Since I only have about 2 years at my job, I also want them to know that I am in it for the long haul, and I won’t get antsy there in two years.
I have a few interviews coming up, so any advice would be appreciated; thanks bees!
Post # 3
@pittobos: You could just say partner or significant other instead of boyfriend or husband 🙂
Post # 4
@pittobos: Lie and call him your fiance? Or you could just call him by his name… Definitely explain that you foresee yourself staying in the new city for a long time because of your SO’s job prospects.
You could also say that although you love your current job and cannot complain about it all, the area was not working out for you. You’ve always felt drawn to the new place and blah blah blah.
Post # 5
@pittobos: I would just say you’re moving because you are interested in the opportunities in your field in that city. Say you want to learn and grow and gain more experience with xxx part of the job you applied for. There’s no need to give them the real reason.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Two years of job history wouldn’t make me think you jump quickly. I would just be honest. “I am relocating due to my boyfriend’s work.” I don’t think that sounds flaky at all.
Post # 7
You could also just say that you are relocating for family/personal reasons and are excited about the chance to explore new opportunities in Whatever City. It is still perfectly honest. No need to even make it about a romantic partner and open up the door for people to judge you based on a “boyfriend” not being serious/committed enough.
On a side note, I feel you on the negative judgment of LDRs not being serious enough if you’re “just” boyfriend & girlfriend. We did that mess for 3 years before we were able to move back in together, and like you, we were waiting for career/financial stars to align before prioritizing marriage. It’s no fun. Best of luck to you!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t even bring that up, I’d just say thatyou were looking for a new opportunity etc etc… Or say that “family” brought you there and you intend to stay there indefinitely
Post # 9
I’ve moved twice for my husband’s job (the first time we had been together about 5 years but weren’t engaged yet) and I just said that my boyfriend/significant other had gotten a great job opportunity which was bringing me to this new city. No one batted an eye at that response.
Post # 10
I totally understand what you mean and would have the same concern. Of course, what you are doing is not flaky at all but they don’t know that. You could say fiance, but then if you get the job and then they think you’re engaged, that could be weird.
I would say something like “As much as I love my current job, I’m ready for to move up and my boyfriend of 6 years live here, so we’d like to live in the same city before getting married.” Then doesn’t leave “boyfriend” open for interpretation. If the job isn’t “moving up,” just say something about learning a new industry, taking on more responsibility, or anything to suggest that a new job will be beneficial to more than just your relationship.