How to pick a wedding date

posted 2 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We picked a Friday wedding and loved it! I know some people don’t like them but I’ve never had a problem with them. The majority of our guest list was from out of town and flew/drove in a few days before the wedding anyway and made a mini-vacation out of it. And we held it a bit later in the evening (6:30) so hypothetically our few local guests wouldn’t need to take off work to make it.

I would pick the Friday date so you have a better shot a good weather.

5 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding and invites don’t typically go out until 6-8 weeks before so I don’t see why that would be a problem. Plus, the other date only gives you a couple extra weeks to plan which wouldn’t be worth it to me.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

megam :  It depends on if as lot of your guests are out of town or local.  I think Friday weddings are fine if they are local as long as they start late so I don’t have to take time off work to attend.  I’d do it for a really close friend or family, but no on else.  But If I canjust leave a bit early and then head over?  YES!  I love going out on fridays and then I still feel like I have so much time left on the weekend.

If it’s out of town I obviously prefer saturday.  I can fly in friday, or thursday if I’m in the bridal party, only missing one day of work, and then let loose on saturday with enough time to travel back on sunday.

Where do you live?  DO you get any Autumn folliage?  Because fall weddings can be so pretty! 

Also would it be awful if you got married 2018?  I’ve loved having extra time to plan, and it’s helped spread out the stress and spending.  Bt if you are ready to run down the aisle go for it!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I don’t like the idea of a Friday wedding. As a guest (not family) I would feel rushed to get to the wedding, I would either have to take a few hours off work, or rush from work. Most of my cities venues are downtown and traffic sucks getting there. 

We mulled the idea of a off day wedding (Friday or Sunday) and decided it wasn’t fair to our guests in our opinion. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Which date works best for your VIPs?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I prefer Saturday weddings over Fridays because it’s easier for people to travel from out of town, and you don’t have to take time off work, especially to go to a church ceremony. 

If you do it on a Friday, you risk some people not being able to come, but the weather end of Oct will probably be nicer than mid-Nov. 

One down-side is that for 11/18, you may be close to Thanksgiving, so it may be harder for people to take time off (if traveling from further away via plane) if they already have Thanksgiving travel plans.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I prefer Saturday weddings as most people are off work.  There’s nothing more irritating as a guest than being invited to a week day wedding because it saved the couple a few hundred quid. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It seems like the biggest choice you have to make is September, October or November. I prefer Saturday weddings, but November sounds less ideal than September and October. As for the September wedding, if 90% of your guests are local, you could pull it off. I would just reach out to out of town guests the second I put my deposit down on the venue and let them know the date and that an invitation is forthcoming!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

Most people book major vendors about a year in advance, so it might be difficult to book the vendors you want for a wedding this year. With that in mind, though, I think Friday would be a better option because the majority of weddings are on Saturdays, so vendors might still have Friday openings. My FI and I are getting married on a Friday because it’s the anniversary of when we first met. The majority of our guests are coming from out of town, so they’ll just be taking Friday off, driving/flying here, attending our wedding, and then still having the rest of the weekend to explore the DC area.

One of my coworkers planned her wedding in 7 weeks! So it’s definitely doable to get married on 9/22 as long as you’re okay with possibly not getting your first choices for vendors.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

megam :  Yeah, I think for pictures, 10/27 is a safer bet.  Even then, if it’s another polar Vortex year…..  But if it’s normal Michigan weather  You could get that perfect autumn feel.  OOOOOOH just thinking about it makes me jealous!!!!!  I grew up in Sarnia Ontario, and October is my all time favorite month in that part of the country!   I think by 11/18 you’ll probably have snow, and most of the leaves will have fallen.

If most of your guests are local, do it!  Plus youll save a bunch of money on vendors :).  Please serve warm apple cider, so I can just day dream about how beautiful that would be.

ETA: I didn’t realize you put 9/22 instead of 6/22,  Ithought you where being way too ambitious!  My best friend is getting married that same day in upstate NY.  It’s a really safe bet, you may or may not get fall colors, but at least the alternate weather is warmth and green instead of snow.  And she hasn’t send out her invites yet, just the save the dates.  For a local wedding you should be fine.  Totally jealous!!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would go for the December date, I don’t at all think it’s too soon for inviting people.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

megam :  As a guest, I prefer a Saturday wedding.  Go with the date that feels right to you!  Either of those dates would work, I LOVE Autumn weddings (especially in the Midwest). 🙂

 

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If the choice is Friday or Saturday, Saturday is probably better. I’ve been to a couple of Friday weddings and even as a local guest, I felt super rushed leaving work, getting home, ready, and to the venue by 7:00 start times. Additionally, I’m up at 6:00am on Fridays, by the time the ceremony happens, dinner isn’t until after 8:00, and then by the time dinner is over I’m exhausted. I either leave early-ish like 10, or I’m basically just sitting and talking because I’m too tired to be up dancing. 

Is Sunday an option? It can be a great way to save some money as the host, and I always feel less rushed trying to get to Sunday weddings. Since they can start in the afternoon or early evening, I don’t feel required to stay late, so I can be home at a reasonable time. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I dont think its too late to do the 9/22 wedding, but it would be tight. One of my friends was engaged and married within 4 months, so its short but doable! Just check with your VIPs, get the date out by word of mouth, book the essentials (venue, officiant) and get the invites out before August. You can deal with catering/photog/etc right after.

That said, I do prefer a Saturday wedding. If you’re doing it inside, the weather matters a lot less, so the saturday in november would still be fine.

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