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How to pick what they should wear or should they choose?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should they choose?
    Let them pick the style since they are each so different and I pick the color. : (10 votes)
    48 %
    I pick the length, and color and let them pick the style : (7 votes)
    33 %
    I should pick everything. : (4 votes)
    19 %
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    Firefighter_Prazs_Girl    02/3/2010 and 05/03/2010   Angleton Texas

    So I am having a really hard time with bridesmaids dresses. I don't know what to do. I want them each to look awesome. But each one is so different in body shape. One is average height and smaller. One is short and heavier, and another one is taller and heavier. I am fine with each one having different styles but what about lengths one wants long and the other one wants shorter. Would that look strange? Or can I really just say here is the colors pick what fits you better? I can barely dress myself let alone find a style that works for them! HELP PLEASE

     
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    rosychicklet    September 27, 2008   Boston, MA

    I myself went with option 1.  Like you my BMs were all over the place in terms of body type.  I have been in too many weddings where I was forced to wear something that was really uncomfortable for me (physically and in terms of being self-conscious) so I didn't want to do that to my BMs.

    Turns out one chose a floor length gown, while the other 3 chose tea length.  It did look a little odd in the photos but I really don't care.  It was so obvious that each of them felt that they looked their best and that mattered more to me than the symmetry of the pictures.

    Here's a picture:

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    RIbride    May, 2009  

    I agree with rosychicklet, I picked out a color and material (different materials can photograph differently) and let them pick the style they wanted.  ALl of my girls picked the same dress, but they liked having the options.  I actually would have preferred if they all picked different styles, because I like the coordinated/ uncoordinated look, but at least they made the decision themselves. 

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    cindylouwho    October10, 2010   Jersey Shore, New Jersey

    I'm very bad.  My younger sisters are my bms, as well as a friend and fsil.  I am paying for the dresses since neither sister is employed (don't get me started).  So, I'm picking them out.     

     
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    mariaguadalupe    06/20/09   Pewaukee, WI

    I tried to make it a pleasant experience for everyone. I picked two dresses that I like and let them choose which one of the two they wanted to wear. They are both long. I personally don't think short and long would look good for pictures. I guess that is what I am thinking about the most since we are spending a lot of $$$ on our pictures.

     
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    katrinab    July 11, 2009   Boston, MA

    Option 1 says it all--my BMs are all so different from eachother in personal style, looks...I definitely wanted them to be able to choose their own dresses. Plus, I felt really uncomfortable with the idea of choosing a dress that costs X much if that was too much for them. I just chose a color and am letting them go with it.

    The funny part though is that some seem to be very confused by this. Like keep checking: is this shade too light, are you sure I can buy from anywhere....anyone else had this happen?

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    Liz.smith    May 23, 2009   TN

    @Katrinab- I was more picky on dresses, but I have been trying to get input on the jewelry and things (I'm buying accessories), and all of them just keep saying it's up to me! Very little input. And they keep asking about what kind of shoes I want them to wear. White! That's all! Just get something you like! But they keep checking in to see if I'm "really" okay with it. :)

     
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    londonladybug    October 10, 2009   London, UK

    i had my bm's with me when i went wedding dress shopping, and while I was browsing they went off to look at the bm options. They all came back with the cutest dress and were like "we want this one! can we, can we, pleeeeease?". It was adorable. The best part was that I LOVED the dress, it fit the colors and look of the wedding beautifully, and was in their price range. So I guess if I think about it I had Option 4: They picked it out, and I had veto power (that i luckily didn't need to use)

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I think my girls all have great style, so I probably would have let them pick their own dresses just to take something off my plate.  On another post on here, though, one girl let her BMs choose and she isn't too happy about the outcome: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/what-not-to-wear?replies=10#post-133048

     
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    angee524    September 6, 2008   Missouri

    I let my girls pick a dress they loved from www.justthebeginnings.com for under $80. They just had to pick a dress that came in burgundy and they all came out great. They got to pick a dress in their own style or shape and everyone was happy.

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