Post # 1
So one of my BMs met us downtown for dinner back in the spring and got a parking boot on her car (it’s a college campus, they don’t play). It cost $80 to have it removed and I fronted her the money that night because she had zilch (she was even making a big deal about even meeting us to eat out because she was on the brink of $0 in her account). I know she would have done it for me if the roles were reversed and she promised she’d pay it back ASAP.
Well, fast forward to about 4 or so months later and she still owes about $70 of it. I really wasn’t in that much of a position to loan the money in the first place (but did it as a friend thinking it would be repaid quickly) and now I keep thinking about what $70 could get me wedding wise (hell, even grocery wise!).
What would be the best way to approach her about the money? I know she could probably easily pay me back by cutting out some extras in her life for just a bit (she’s a sorority girl, so she goes out a lot and spends $ on t-shirts and whatnot). But she also just paid her deposit on the BM dress and I don’t know her current financial situation.
I don’t know about you girls, but I HATE owing people money, so I really thought she would have taken care of this sooner instead of making me have to confront her. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
I would let her know that you are making some personal budgets and balancing all your accounts and realized that she stills owes you $70 from that day. Ask her when she thinks she can get it to you so you don’t have a gap in your personal account. If she has serious financial woes and doesn’t think she can swing it… ask her if there is anyway she can pay a portion?
Post # 4
Thanks GaBGal! That’s a very practical way to go about it. I’m honestly willing to forgive her $20 or so just to recoup some of the money. Every penny counts when planning a wedding!
Post # 5
Yikes, I hate when stuff like that happens…that’s why for the most part I try not to loan money. I also am horrible about finding a nice way to ask for it back. My hubby paid for the BM dress of one of his cousins for our wedding because she’s from out of town…our wedding was almost a year ago and she hasn’t even mentioned the few hundred dollars she owes us, so I totally feel your pain!
Post # 6
She most likely just forgot about it!
I don’t know how because I stress over money owed to the point that I can’t sleep but if you remind her in a nice way like GaBgal recommended I am sure she will get it back to you ASAP!
Post # 7
Ugh, I totally hate this sort of stuff! I think GaBgal had a great way of putting it. I really hate asking for money and I just write people checks on the spot or do it ASAP. I hate owing money. And I always feel cheap asking for it. Why? I dunno.
We always park in the same parking garage in downtown Savannah. It’s free on Saturdays and then we go pick it back up Sunday. The boots are just awful! College campuses are super strict about that stuff though. See if she’ll either pay all at once or like, $25 a month. C’mon, everyone has $25 a month. Even a sorority girl…i was in a sorority and I’d just have a lazy night instead of going out to make up for it. Or, er, pre-party at home instead of in a bar. =P
BTW, Miss Lab, there is a really yummy thai/fusion restaurant called Tangerine in Savannah that is incredible. I had thier seafood curry and it was insane. And a lychee martini. It’d be fun for a girls’ night =]
Post # 8
What an awkward position–I hate it when a friend owes you money. I do like GaBGal’s suggestion. Just bring it up casually (even in an email, if it’s easier) and say you were checking your budget and realized she still owed you the $70 from the parking incident. Let her know that you were just checking to see if/when she’d be able to pay you. You could even say that if she can’t pay the entire amount, you could be flexible in terms of getting the whole thing back.