- 5 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
My future MIL – To get a well rounded picture I think she is a very nice, generous lady and we get along very well. Her and her husband have welcomed me into their family with open arms and, on a day to day basis, there really aren’t many problems.
The thing is, I think there’s something wrong with her. Thats not meant to be read as a snotty comment but a real concern, like I kind of wonder if she might be showing early signs of dementia :S Certain things, comments, or even tasks just don’t seem to…”compute” with her. Often times when we’re all together, its like she’s off in her own little world and she misses much of the conversation. She’ll ask me to show her how to do something and if the instructions are longer than two or three lines, she can’t seem to follow. The last time we had helped set up for a party, she had to be shown several times how to do things and even then they were either put together wrong, crooked, or placed in ways that just didn’t make any sense. We had to wait until after she’d walked away to quietly go back and fix them so as not to hurt her feelings.
My fiancé and I have discussed it some but because it hasn’t reached a point where we’d consider her a danger to herself or others its mostly been just shrugged off. I’m not going to push it because I know its a sensitive matter and I think my “place” should be more as a support person, rather than the person making the call regarding her well-being.
Anyway, so here’s my dilemma:
She wants to be helpful and get right in there with the setup for the wedding. And while I know I should be grateful for this but, it would actually be easier for me if she didn’t help. I’ve put a lot of time into DIY projects and have a very clear idea of how I would like things to look. Some of the things I’ve made (such as paper pomanders) are very delicate and I’m concerned that if she neglects to handle them with care, they’ll end up as garbage. I’m also really worried that I won’t have time to go back and fix things so I could really use some advice on how to approach this subject in a sensitive and respectful way…
p.s. I created a new account to talk about this since I wouldn’t want any other family members to recognize it on my other profile.