How to prevent guests from wearing white dress to the wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You really can’t tell other adults what to wear/not to wear at your wedding.  That is kinda of bridezillaish to tell your photographer not to take pictures of someone if they are wearing white.

On your wedding day you really are not going to notice who is wearing what. You get so wrapped up in the day about your FI soon to be DH/DW that you barely remember to eat, let alone notice what people are wearing.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@inspiration86:  No suggestions but I think you would come off as a really rude bride if you called someone out on wearing a white dress.

Please don’t do that.

Calling someone out AND telling your photog to not take pictures of people wearing white clearly surpasses being “annoyed” by wearing white….that’s downright controlling.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

 @inspiration86:  Ugh I’d be pissed if someone wore white to my wedding. When my aunt got married, my other aunt and her daughter (my cousin) both had the nerve to wear white dresses. She was not happy! I don’t think there’s anything you can do. You would think it would be common sense for the guests to not wear white. Just think though, if someone does wear white to your wedding, they won’t look as amazing as you 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

There’s nothing you can do about it.  I don’t remember if anyone wore white to my wedding, I doubt it and I also don’t think I would have noticed unless they were wearing a wedding dress.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I forgot to add – what is the reason you don’t want someone wearing white?  Are you worried about the focus not being on you?  That someone will mistake them for the bride?

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’re going to have a real wakeup call when you realize that on the day of, you’re not going to give two flying fucks what anyone wears.

Your feet will be sore. You’ll be hungry. You’ll have 8000 people trying to get your attention/talk to you/take a picture with you/ask you something/ask to make a toast/do whatever, the DJ will be playing songs you want to dance to, you’ll be doing the cake cutting or the bouquet toss or the garter toss, dancing the money dance, dancing with friends, and frankly, you’re going to look at the clock and the entire day will have whipped past you and you’ll realize, “Gee, I didn’t notice what anyone was wearing.” All you’ll want to do is sit down, get some food and maybe a little alcohol in you.

You come off as controlling and bridezilla. Are you seriously that worried that someone will mistake someone else for you?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@inspiration86:  I feel like most people have the common sense and decency to not wear solid white to a wedding. They KNOW that is the *general* color that brides wear. I wouldn’t even worry about it, chances are no one will choose to wear that to your wedding anyways.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@inspiration86:  I have really no idea how you genuinely believe someone could stand in a room full of people and go, “gee, I wonder who the bride is!” Could it possibly be the person standing next to the groom, or the one wearing white in the bridal party?

 

Never!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

So if someone wears white how much of your night are you going to let it ruin?

I can’t tell you enough, how much you will regret the time and energy spent, on your wedding day, worrying about a guest wearing white.  It’s annoying, you have a right to be annoyed but don’t let it get you too worked up.  It’s so not worth it.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

@inspiration86:   Since you posted this in the etiquette section and are looking for input, I think it’s fair to say that while some sources still discourage white, others do not.  For example, the  new Emily Post has  come out to say that white is fine as long as it’s not bridal looking. It’s  far worse  to do what you are suggesting than it is for a guest to make a faux pas, even if it were a faux pas. You don’t get to play fashion cop or dictate anything to your guests, all of whom are presumed to be capable of dressing themselves for your wedding. And if they are not, then it’s on them, not on you.  

It would be rude to “address” this issue,  call someone out, or demand your photographer boycott all women in white.  It’s still your job to make your invited guests feel welcome.  Don’t give people a reason to say that your behavior says more about you than anyone else.

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