Post # 1
I’m having slightly second-thoughts on having kids…
My ex-bf is a picky eater, who would only eat some fruits, hot dogs, pizza, and ramen. I gave him mac ‘n cheese once, and he THREW UP. He was the most annoying person to deal with. I always had to cook 2 things for dinner – something for him, and something for me.
A friend of the FI and I only eats meat, french fries, and mashed potatoes. One time i dyed mashed potatoes green with food coloring, and he REFUSED to eat them. He doesn’t consume ANY vegetables OR FRUITS.
My niece only eats chicken nuggets, french fries, broccoli, and pasta. My sister caters to her every whim and whine and want. She never makes her eat anything else because she just doesn’t want to deal with her whinning.
I don’t know what I would do if my child ended up being a picky eater… my FI and I LOVE all kinds of food. We are the least picky eaters on the face of the earth. We love allll types of veggies, fruits, meats, grains…
How do you prevent your kids from being picky eaters?
Post # 3
I think exposing children to a variety of food options as they are allowed at their age is the most important. Your kids aren’t going to like some foods, all of the kids in my family hate onions. But the important thing is to not cater to their needs and to give them the option of eating what you make or they don’t eat (at least not until later).
Post # 4
@AquaGrey8962: I plan on giving my kids (kid?) smaller portions of adult food. There will be no chicken fingers, mac & cheese, french fries, burgers. They can eat that stuff when out at a friends or what not but I plan on introducing my child to a variety of foods that my FI and I eat.
Post # 5
@harperlynn: I read a lot of vegetarian and vegan mommy blogs (even though I am *not* vegan/vegetarian) and their babies eat ALL kinds of veggies and fruits. I think it’s because that’s all that is offered to them.
So yeah, I totally agree with you, I’m not offering my kids nuggets/chicken fingers, or french fries. they can have chicken, and potatoes… but not in nugget or fry form.
Post # 6
Both DH and I are picky eaters in our own right. When you have a child, you feed them everything. You do have to realize though once that child reaches toddler hood that they can like something one day and hate it the next and sometimes will only eat 1 thing for a period of time. That is just how toddlers are.
How we have concered so far with our 20 month old is we I buy all kinds of vegetables, fruit, ect for him. We give him all kinds of foods. And there is nothing wrong with Mac n Cheese in moderation. In fact when little boy gets Mac n Cheese, I put vegetables in it along with the normal stuff for making Mac N Cheese to make it more healthy.
Post # 7
@MrsDe2013: yeah i remember growing up, my mom would tell me “if you dont like what i make for dinner, you can make yourself a PB&J sandwich.” i never made the sandwich, because hot dinner food always seemed better than a cold sandwich, lol. I don’t plan on being a diner and making different foods for my kids. but it seems like such a gamble… i just don’t know how i’ll handle it :
Post # 8
I definitely agree with exposing your child to different foods from the very beginning and not to give into whiny demands. Unfortunately, there is a biological drive in babies to tend to want sweet foods; it stems from when every calorie was necessary, and since sweet foods tend to give us more energy, we evolved to crave them. What a friend of mine’s mom did when my friend was just starting on baby food was she would mix a small spoonful of peas or another hated food into a jar of mashed bananas or something, then slowly over time add more and more peas to the bananas until eventually my friend was eating peas without a problem.
Of course, no child is going to like everything. But I think if you raise a child willing to at least TRY something before turning their nose up at it, you’ve won a great victory on that front. Picky eaters bother me, but what bothers me worse is when a child says “I don’t like it!” And they’ve never tried it.
Post # 9
My sisters and I were generally fed the same things the adults ate from the time we could eat solid food. We ate whichever fruits and veggies were in season (and therefore cheap). I think variety is important so kids are exposed to lots of different flavors.
Post # 10
I’m a really picker eater but my children are much better than me. They have to at least try it and just because they didn’t like it this time they will still try it again next time. One of my boys will try anything which is great but the other is more like me but he knows the rules he must try:)
Post # 11
I”m not sure how I did it, because while I LOVE food, I have a texture problem. Some things I just cannot eat because they literally make me gag. I always made sure though she knew that everyone else liked these things, and I made a point of really letting her know that I loved something good for me. Like broccoli for example, and because mommy loved it, she had to love it too.
Even with my problem, this kid will eat anything, I mean she’s tried oysters and escargot (fully realizing they were snails) for gods sake and she’s only 8 1/2. At the age of 3 she asked for sushi, and chowed down on calamari. Two things I cannot stand to put in my mouth. Somehow I got really lucky!
I never fed her ‘kids’ food though, and maybe that’s why. She ate what we were eating. My DH loves all the things I don’t so while I can’t stand the texture of 99% of seafood, they eat it without me and tell me I’m CRAZY for not liking it too!
Post # 12
I offered my kids everything as soon as they were of an appropriate age. The rule in our house was that you had to take two tastes of anything- then the pressure was off. That was two spoonfuls, forkfuls- whatever was applicable.
There was no figting or arguing around the table because the kids knew the rule and we were consistent with it. If they ate their two tastes, they were free to eat or not eat the rest.
If they didn’t like it, so be it. When they were offered it again, the same rule applied. Eventually they just ate it as they matured.
My kids both eat everything today.
Post # 13
definitely, I mean @Sassygrn: is right, once your child is a toddler they are going to have certain foods they only want to eat. That’s just how toddlers are. It’s just important to give them a variety and to avoid giving them only 4 things before that stage.
My nieces & nephews eat crazy korean food all the time. I mean I’m talking like fermented radishes, squid, and crab. The oldest one is not yet 5! So I think you just have to not give in and fight the battle! Of course your kid is going to go through stages of like and dislike but parents can help their kids grow out of it.
Post # 14
@AquaGrey8962: yeah i remember growing up, my mom would tell me “if you dont like what i make for dinner, you can make yourself a PB&J sandwich.” i never made the sandwich, because hot dinner food always seemed better than a cold sandwich, lol.
my mom would say something similar and i actually did go and make my own dinner. i ate a lot of grilled cheese sandwiches and cereal when i was a kid. i turned out fine though. i’m not a picky eater anymore.
Post # 15
Only offer what you want your kids to eat. My daughter started eating fresh mashed veggies and fruit, and as she grew she was eating modified adult food. I’ve never made a kid meal and an adult meal (and god help me if I ever had to make two meals because my adult partner wouldn’t eat what I made). We eat a huge variety of foods and tastes and textures.
I don’t believe in forcing children to eat things they truly hate or to finish their plate. I make sure I’m giving a child-friendly portion of each food we’re eating so that she can reasonably finish it, and when I know she doesn’t like a food much (sweet potato, for example), I give her a smaller amount of that so that she knows she has to eat that amount but wouldn’t be made to eat more if she didn’t want it. She knows she has to at least try every new food that I make and she can let me know honestly if she likes it or doesn’t, and I go from there, but I never stop offering foods because kids’ tastes change significantly as they get older and things she hated last year (avocado) are her new favourite foods.
She also gets to help plan meals and make things, and I find she tends to think about food a bit differently and gets more excited about her meals because she had some choice about what’s on the table. My mom was the same with me and I never had any issues with pickiness, while my older sibling wasn’t really involved in preparing meals and is still at 30 a very picky eater.
Post # 16
Some kids are just really sensitive but grow out of it. I was super picky as a kid and would starve before I ate something off-putting, but as an adult, I’ll try anything twice.
I can tolerate picky kids, because they’re kids. Better if they’re not, but I sorta get it. Kid taste buds are physically different from adults.
But adult picky eaters are awful and it would be a relationship dealbreaker. When FH doesn’t like what I’m cooking, I do not cook something else for him. If he doesn’t like what I’m making he can take care of his own self.
I’d probably take a similar attitude to kids old enough to make themselves a sandwich, with a big helping of “at least try it.”