(Closed) How to reach out…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
5389 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

First, I just want to say that you are such a nice and thoughtful person for caring so much about your future SIL!!

Just pull her aside and talk to her. I wish that I had someone that I was close to pull me aside and tell me that they understand what I am going through. Let her know that you are there to listen and I am sure that she would love to her that. If I were her, I wouldn’t come to you because I wouldn’t want to come off as jealous. So by you going to her, it will open the door of communication!

Post # 4
Member
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I guess it depends on how contrived you want it to seem. You could always wait until she makes another comment that indicates she’s getting a little antsy, and if the two of you are alone, you could bring it up then. Or, since that could take a while, you could just mention it the next time you two are hanging out. And I would let her choose what would help best – For some people, I’m sure it would help to know that there’s someone who will listen when they need to vent. For others, maybe helping with the planning process will be like getting a head start on her planning without making the judgmental outside world seeing her as preemptively planning. And for others, it might be easiest to avoid the topic altogether but know that someone is rooting for them.

Either way, though, I think it’s awesome that you want to do this for her. I got the “So, are you engaged yet?” questions for months, but had no one to talk to since all of my friends were either engaged or married already. And I had no idea about Weddingbee until I got engaged.

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