Post # 1
My wedding is over 4 months away. I have been planning for many months and have some things left but there is still time. I can’t stop obsessing over having to do wedding planning every day… How do you convince yourself that it’s fine to step away and take a break? Happy Valentine’s Day everyone !! <3<3<3
Post # 3
Just take everything in stride.. set a few nights aside each week to not do any wedding stuff. It helps, that is what I did and it seems to really help.
Post # 4
@julyweddinglovebirds: It can be really hard not to obsess over items that are still on your list. I certainly do that myself. Most days I feel like we are very prepared and then other days in dawns on me that we don’t have all that long before the wedding.
I set specific goals for each month and only focus on those, otherwise I start to feel stressed out. Another thing I do is schedule time where there is to be absolutely no wedding planning going on. My FI and I do things that we enjoy doing and wedding talk is prohibited. I have remind myself that the most important part of the day isn’t the color of the table runners or even the type of food we have. I’m marrying my best friend and the love of my life and that puts a smile on my face.
Post # 5
@julyweddinglovebirds: You know what, the truth is, it’s just hard and stressful. The biggest relief comes right before the wedding when you realize you’ve done all you can and it’s all fallen into place. And by then, anything that hasn’t, you could care less about. Just try to enjoy it as much as possible and stay positive! 🙂
Post # 7
@ColoradoGirl: yes, what matters is the marriage part and less the physical things or how “perfectly” everything has to be. i must remember that during stressful time 🙂 thanks for the tips.
@MrsJX3: Thanks! yes, enjoying the day is important, really cannot forget that ! 🙂
Post # 8
@julyweddinglovebirds: I feel the same way. Wedding stuff is always in the front of my mind! It seems like it will never all be finished!
Post # 9
Get a planner or use your phone (I preferred a cheap planner to keep wedding planning separate from other things) and write down things you’re going to accomplish on a reasonable timeline and also write down people who need contacted by certain dates, give yourself free days and on those days write something like “NO WEDDING PLANNING, NO OBSESSING” and if planning thoughts start sneaking in on those days, stop them and push them out. Spend time on those days with a little bit of pampering yourself, get a pedi or give yourself one, something that’s just for you and to carve out ‘you time.’ Or nap, lol. I sometimes just wanted a nap when I was planning our wedding. I was stressed, tired, cranky and freaking out (the freaking out about a month before until after the ceremony) and shutting down for a nap was awesome at times.
But it really is hard and stressful and I won’t lie, at 4 months out right now, it probably will get more stressful as the date gets nearer. I was a cranky cryzilla about a week before and seriously thought I was going to lose it, I probably would have without already having a prescription for Xanax since I have severe anxiety and panic disorder problems already. I had some meltdowns. My husband joked to my dad when I was getting ready for the ceremony to not go into our cottage while I was in there because “the devil is in there, it’s not safe” and they laughed, my dad knew how stressed and cranky I was, lol. (He told me after and I laughed and agreed.)
What’s funny in retrospect is EVERYTHING I was worried about and all worked up over didn’t come close to happening, our ceremony, reception dinner and the bonfire we had after (we were on Lake Superior and it was just our immediate families and my grandparents) went fabulously. I was crying and freaking out over absolutely nothing, the entire wedding went off without a single issue.
You’ll probably end up stressing over details that in the end are really not a huge deal, worry about guests, photography, shoes, accessories, hair, makeup, whatever but when you walk down the aisle on your wedding day, none of it matters and everything but the person you’re about to be married to fades into the background.
Good luck, congratulations and try not to let it get to you!
Post # 10
Last year I didn’t work on Fridays so those were wedding days. I would try not to talk or think about the wedding on other days. If I did think of something, I would write it down. On Friday I’d try to check everything wedding related off my list for that week.
Post # 11
thanks for all your messages. so helpful to me!! 🙂
Post # 12
everything comes to pass.
your wedding is a day, your marriage is a lifetime.