How to remember family members who have passed on

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I lost both my brother and dad (both to suicide) so I wanted to honor them with out making a big deal.  So I found this and really plan to do this, I don’t like candles so this is perfect because it so simple but it will be the only candle burning.

 

There a couple other ideas on Pinterest that include a pictures or just sayings.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

we did a balloon release during the ceremony (not everyones cup of tea) for our little boy i lost during pregnancy we had 32 balloons one for each week that had passed was just me DH and my daughter who did it so was very personal to us and after the ceremony the photographer managed to catch a full rainbow on the decking where we released the balloons which melted my heart was so special 🙂  i love the candle idea tho. you could have a moment of silence to remember everyone who could not be with you on your special day, i did see somewhere you can get tiny picture frames that can attach to your GFs flowers you could put a picture in it for her.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@otto2008:  I was thinking of getting something like this and having it on the guest book table or something:

I’d probably add a simple note with something along the lines of “In memory of our loved ones who are with us in spirit, today and always.”

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@otto2008:   i had photo charms on my bouquet so that they there with me. you could incorporate this into buttonholes too if you wanted.

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@otto2008:  here is what i did to remember the deceased

In my wedding program I put a poem that said:

Although we cannot see you  We know that you are here  Smiling down, watching over us  As we say “I DO”  Forever in our hearts  Forever in our lives 

then I listed their names

Father of the Bride

Godparents of the Bride

Grandparents of the groom

 

I had a charm made on etsy.com and put a picture of my father and I and had it on my bouquet and then I made a montage video of pictures of my mom and dad together and me, my sister and him and the DJ incorporated Daddy’s Little Girl by Michael Buble and Somewhere over the Rainbow to play as the video went on.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

@happymummy:  Aw!! 🙂 A rainbow is a very auspicious sign. I’m glad he was with you in spirit, probably smiling and being happy for you.

 

I just lost my dad to heart attack earlier last month. My brother and I will do a song tribute each to him. My brother will be singing Tears in Heaven while my uncle plays the guitar. I am going to try play and sing You Raise Me Up, but will have to come up with a back-up plan in case I end up bawling.

My FI’s brother got married earlier this September. We lost their grandma two or three years ago. FBIL and wife had a picture of her holding haggis and had candles lit for Grandma, close to the altar. (No words) They played Gordon Lightfoot’s songs before the ceremony started, which was Gran’s favourite Canadian artist.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Cynderbug:  thank you im so glad the photographer got the picture because no one else had seen the rainbow except him 🙂 you your brother and uncle are doing a very touching tribute will be very heartfelt to you all im sorry for your loss

 

 

 

 

our balloon release

 

 

the rainbow 😀

 

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@otto2008:  FI’s mom passed away 2 years ago.  I got him this locket pin from Etsy and will put her picture in it.  He can wear it next to his bout/instead of a bout/on a bout…to be decided.  I like the idea that he’ll have it after the wedding is over.  I’m also going to get something similar for his dad and brothers as part of their bridal party present.  I’m still debating on whether we will do something more public during the ceremony or reception, and if so what.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I made my veil using handmade lace from my grandmother’s side of the family as the edging. We’re not actually sure who made the lace, none of us remember my grandma ever making lace (but she knitted, crocheted, and sewed a lot… but this is tatted lace), so maybe her mom or her mother-in-law? It doesn’t really matter who made it though, it’s something my grandmother kept and cherised and passed on to my mom, so I’m glad it’s going to be a part of my wedding day 🙂 She’s the only one of my 4 grandparents I ever met, as the others died before I was born.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@otto2008:  I see this question a lot on here. Personally, I suggest doing something subtle. My personal opinion that this day is supposed to be one of joy! The empty memorial chairs and candles that are lit and labeled for the deceased always seems sad to me. I wanted to remember my father and grandparents on our wedding day, but didn’t want to be sad, or make anyone else upset. Basically, I didn’t want to bring folks down! I had small charms on my boquet with pictures of my father and grandparents. I also had a small swatch of fabric from my grandma’s wedding dress with our initials and the date sewn in the lining of my dress. It was enough for me. 🙂

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We did a memory table (it was actually on a wine barrel) with photos of our loved ones (grandparents and DH’s aunt) with a sign we made that just said “In Loving Memory”.  

My DH and I both lost our grandmas within the past 2 years, so that was something in the forefront of my mind.  I decided to attached pins that belonged to each of them to my bouquet, and my aunt let me borrow my other grandmother’s ring to attach as well.  It was nice to kind of have them there with me in that way, without everyone knowing about it.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@otto2008: We’re planning on putting something in the programs…I’ll have to come up with a cute quote or something. Maybe “We know you would be here today if heaven wasn’t so far away” and then list their names.

Plus I’m planning to buy a pocket watch as a gift for my FI and include a picture of his parents in it. I doubt he’ll ever use it again, but the idea that they can be with him during that day will mean a lot to him.

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