Post # 1
I don’t mean the “no boxed gifts” thing, I just mean that we can’t easily bring back a bunch of gifts cross country back to our home. We are hoping that those who do choose to give us physical gifts know enough to ship them to us rather than bring them to the wedding. It should be pretty obvious, but even a Christmastime we have a hard time packing up our suitcases from everyone who is getting us just “small things easy to pack”.
Is there a gracious way to word a reminder? Right now Fiance has just drafted on our website a simple “please remember that we live on the west coast for our east coast wedding”, but it just sounds too cut-and-dry and almost admonishing for my tastes.
Post # 3
I really don’t think this is something people need to be reminded of. They know where you live and that you have to travel. Besides not too many people give boxed gifts at least not around here.
Post # 4
We did a wishing well instead of presents and in the invitation envelope we put another wee note with a poem telling people we want a wishin well not presents
Post # 5
@MsSparklyBee: You would be surprised. I travelled home across the other side of the world for my engagement party. My Aunt gave us a huge & heavy decorative ceramic bowl the size of my arm filled with very delicate glass balls. I’m not sure how she thought I would get it home! Someone else gave us a slab of granite which was supposed to be used as a big chopping board. I mean I love the thought but seriously people, how the hell am I supposed to lug this stuff on a 26 hour flight. Silly.
Post # 6
FI’s family is throwing me a bridal shower next month when we go visit them. His entire family lives in another state halfway across the country and we either have to fly or drive 17 hours to see them. We’ll be flying and his family knows that giving us physical gifts is a no go. They can ship them to our house, of course, but apparently they’re not keen on this idea. They came to us and said, “set up a honeymoon registry, it’ll be so much easier.” I’m not big on the idea of honeymoon registries, but whatever – thats what they requested so thats fine with us. They don’t like just giving money without it having a specific purpose so I guess it makes them feel better to choose specific honeymoon items to designate their gift toward.
I very highly doubt your guests will forget that you live across the country. I’d just tell your family & friends to spread the word if they can
Post # 7
I had a friend who had a baby shower 1500 miles away from where she lived. She put on the “notes” on her registry that she’d prefer any gifts be shipped directly to her house and not brought to the shower. The invitations (sent my her MIL) stated the same thing. She ended up still shipping a lot of boxes back from the shower to her house. Some people don’t listen, unfortunately.’
You might want to only register for things that you can travel easily with.
Post # 8
Okay, you guys have solidified that we do have to at least try to say something. I was thinking of getting rid of the reminder entirely.