How to respond to a loose cannon aunt about no kids (email)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh you poor thing. I asked for a no kid wedding, I had a few show up with thier kids, and to be honest I did not even notice. Send out the invites and if she says something explain to her, if she freaks out maybe make an exception for her.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mousepeach:  You sent her an email that said you had two cute dresses for her daughter. She made a natural leap to conclude that you meant the dresses for your wedding.

Hi Aunt____.

I am sorry if I caused confusion when I asked for your address to ship the dresses for ___. You will note when you get the wedding invitation,(hopefully this week!), that we are having an adult only reception. Again, I apologize for possibly misleading you but I meant for ___ to wear the dreses to church etc.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How old is the cousin?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mousepeach:  are you sure she doesnt know already that it’s a child free wedding? Hopefully her response was not manipulative/passive agressive to light up this timebomb of a conversation that will proceed.

Honesty is the best policy! Tell her that you are also getting so excited about the wedding and that planning is underway. We’ve decided to have a really small adult affiar, but that there will be plenty of pretty pictures to share with Dana. 

Done! 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@julies1949:  –> 100% this.

Couldn’t have said it better myself.

 

Post # 12
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42546 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mousepeach:  Don’t get sucked into debating with her. Don’t rationalize that she didn’t have kids at her wedding. If she is being passive aggressive, she will only come back with ” If I didn’t get married in the daytime when you were at school, I would have had all the family children at  my wedding!  Just stick to the script ” We are having an adult only wedding.”

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