(Closed) How to respond to denial?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I thnk you might be overanalyzing it here.  My fiance is super excited to get married and for our wedding, but I’d never trust him to plan it on his own – it would NEVER get done. Not because he didn’t want to get married, but because he just isn’t a planner type and he has no idea what to do and would get super overwhelmed and jsut not do it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@esplanfreedom:  I’m confused. Did you agree to a wedding date of March 2nd with the understanding that your FI would plan the entire event?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn

I think the issue might be that he’s just not doing anything, whether she’s planning it or someone else is. I don’t think any sane bride would expect their FI plan the whole thing, that’s just madness. Is that right, OP, do you feel he is just not doing anything to get the wedding ball moving?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@esplanfreedom:  Honestly, a lot of men don’t have a sweet clue about wedding planning. They don’t know what needs to be done or how to do it.  They also don’t know what types of things to pick out for a wedding, especially that which would be to his bride’s taste.  I’m sure there are SOME men who are good at this but my husband wasn’t and your fiance might not be either.  I had to do most of the planning by myself because my husband just kept telling me that he didn’t know what to do and that he trusted my judgment.  However, he did book a photographer and call around about venues like I asked him to, so if you give your fiance specific tasks to do, I bet he would probably do them.  I would advise against asking him to help with things like decor, color schemes, flowers, etc.  Maybe he could help look after things like venues, photographers, videographers, catering, etc.  He could also help with things like getting favors and invitations ready.

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