Post # 1
I have this exact message:
“Vmec, please let us know if you are registered with any gift registry”
We have not… we want cash. Should I say:
“Thanks for asking, but we have not registered” or
“Thanks for asking, but since we live together we have not registered” or
“Thanks for asking, we have not registered as we are hoping to use any monetary gifts for our future honeymoon to Australia” OR
Post # 3
I would say “Thanks for asking, we have chosen not to register since we have a home together.” If they can read between the lines they’ll know that you aren’t looking for dishes.
Post # 4
I like Zusie‘s wording. People should understand to give you cash 🙂
Post # 7
I might just flat out ask for monetary gifts. Many people who already live together still register so I am not sure how this could be interpreted as covertly asking for money?
Post # 8
asking “flat out” is considered rude to many… so tread carefully…
Post # 9
I replied with the suggested response and she said is there anything in particular you would like? Although I know you probably have everything already.
Yes, we do have most things to set up our home. Therefore we would appriciated monetary gifts to put towards our honeymoon to Australia as soon as I graduate with my BBA.
Hopefully now it’s crystal clear: money please!
Post # 10
We registered for a few items….mainly small ticket items (well under $50 for each item) and a few larger ticket ones (just in case anyone is feeling extra generous..lol…but totally don’t expect them)….So that our friends and family have options….I don’t want people to feel that they have to “pay for their plate”….so they could buy something small on our registry instead…
I haven’t yet been asked about a registry, but it is on our wedding website….
My sister isn’t registering at all for her wedding….she said she didn’t expect gifts from people and only wanted “best wishes”…but then said “But people like you and your FI could give us money to help with our honeymoon”…um, people like us? WTF is that supposed to mean?
Post # 11
@smcs28: I think it means she knows your her sister and will give her something and that something she would prefer cash for honeymoon.
Post # 12
I just explained to people that we have not registered, and when questioned further I just explained: “after living alone for 9 years each, we’ve both accumulated pretty much everything one would need to start a home”.
Of course if someone does break down and get us a physical gift, we will be gratious, but I’d prefer to get money that we can spend on something we really want, or want to do>
Post # 13
A friend of mine told me she only wanted best wishes so I made a donation in her name. If she had actually wanted money, I hope she would have told me that.
Post # 14
vmec – I had the same situation and if people pressed after I told them that I had no registry because I didn’t have room for anything (that was our situation) then I just told them that I would love a card from them. If they insisted that they wanted to give more then a card, then I was honest and told them that a gift card or monetary gift would be more then appreciated in that case.
Post # 15
It’s a tough one! My cousin and his fiance didn’t register. I don’t think they just want cash though. It’s strange! They are having a “Kitchen Shower”.. where all the gifts are kitchen supplies. But they didn’t register because my cousin said:
“Jess wants some things that are 200-300 (like a kitchenaid mixer), and then people have to go in on a group gift, so we aren’t registering”
Does this make sense to anyone else?! LOL i thought it was pretty weird! 🙂