(Closed) How to restore relationship with FSIL? – Long.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Invite her for coffee or lunch, just the two of you, and apologize for your role in the rift in your relationship. Tell her you sincerely want to change things, and that if she feels comfortable, you would like to have her as a bridesmaid.

It sounds like a lot of this info is second-hand. Myabe all of it isn’t true. Give her a chance to have a real relationship with you-with neither of you listening to other people about it.

Be prepared that she may not apologize, and may not want to accept yours, either.

At least you’ll know you tried 🙂

Post # 4
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I like the idea of a letter, or an email.  Sounds like she doesn’t have any interest in meeting up with you, so maybe start off with a letter.  You said a lot of good things that you should put in your letter, like apologizing for listening to second hand information, and any hurtful things you may have done to her.  Tell her that you would like to try to restore your relationship, that you don’t have to be best friends, but would like to be in her life.  Does she still talk to your FI? Maybe have your Fiance call her up and talk you up. 

Post # 6
4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You can only try so much. If she doesn’t respond, just know you’ve done what you can and don’t feel bad about it.


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