How to say, "Don't buy me ______"

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would definitely mention it on the invites.

I like what you have written! It’s a cute little poem!

I know some people will probably say not to write anything, but as a gift giver I would much rather know what mommy-to-be could use instead of accidently getting her something she can’t use, even if I never found out.

Post # 5
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@OnceUponATime:  I think thats a super cute poem, not at all rude!! It’s better to let people know about the fact that these are unnecessary because those are common gift items.

Post # 6
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

When I registered at Babies R Us, they gave me the option of having the VIB card.  I would check with babies r us and see if you can just opt out of having it so people don’t put money on it.

Post # 7
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@OnceUponATime:  I think the poem is cute and to the point. I would include it.

Post # 8
697 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do people really buy gift cards for showers? I’d call and see if you can get the option removed, but if anyone purchases one, I’d just donate them to a women’s shelter. 

Post # 10
3635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that’s super cute and totally appropriate.  I never knew.  You could even mention it just on the registry website.  There’s a place to make comments where most people just write “It’s a girl!”

ETA:  I don’t know many people who cloth diaper who haven’t used a few disposables when babies are teeny – they just don’t fit in them yet!  So she might have use for a little bit of it, but best to stll let people know.  I always end up asking people if they’re breast or formula feeding and cloth or disposable diapering.


Post # 12
3217 posts
Sugar bee

if you include it know that it is impolite. there is no polit way to say don’tt but x that is polite.

It’s equivilant of saying no boxed gifts. Which is impolite. you cannot reject a gift before it is given.

Gifters can give whateever they like, if the receiver has no use for it, it can be given away or donated.


Post # 13
1743 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I often buy gift cards for baby showers, so I would appreciate knowing that she didn’t want this.  You can also spread the word through family and friends.

It’s not like she’s asking for cash so I don’t see it being rude at all.

Post # 14
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s cute and appropriate. But if she does end up getting a gift card – she may use it. I have friends that do re-useable most of hte time, but they like to have disposable for when they go out.

Post # 16
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Maybe I’m paranoid but I wouldn’t necessarily sum it up in a cutesy poem. I would just be direct and say something along the lines of BRU automatically adding the VIB card to your registry and for shoppers to disregard that option. If they prefer, there is a giftcard option instead. I personally would hate to spend money on something the recipient has no use for so I would appreciate getting this note. 

Conversly, she could just buy diapers with it and return it later for store credit so she can get other BRU items instead (without the receipt, of course). Don’t do formula because I think there may be regulations against returning formula, even when it looks factory sealed.


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