(Closed) How to say no…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are you officially in the wedding now, or is this still as a “backup”? If it was just as a backup still at this point, I wouldn’t have a problem saying no considering the financial aspect…

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly…I think all you can do is share the concerns about the financial end of it, which seem valid considering you are in the middle of your own wedding stuff.  Personally, I wouldn’t share the issues you have with the dress and the color – I just don’t think that would help the situation at all.  Maybe it will be important enough to her that she can help out with buying the dress.  I don’t think there is a way to just say no without hurting her though – even though you weren’t on the initial list, she is still going to be hurt and offended.

Post # 8
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1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What would you do if this was a friend, and not your sister? It sounds like part of you wants to be involved in your sister’s wedding, but you aren’t so keen on doing it on her terms because of your taste and your budget. If this wasn’t your sister, would you decline? Grin and bear it? Make suggestions? Maybe take the family aspect out of this and ask yourself what you would do.

Post # 9
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What are the chances you could find this dress on ebay, used,  or sell it once you’ve worn it?

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