- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
…without being rude or making a little girl cry.
First, I’m owned by this big, beautiful beast named Napoleon:
^^That’s his “Lady, I’ve woke you up for food twice now. Don’t MAKE me do it again” face.
He’s 130 pounds of fluffy awesomeness, so naturally, all the neighborhood kids want to come over and play with him. We have one neighbor boy behind us, and he always comes over and asks. If one of us is available we will go outside with them. Otherwise, we say “not today” and all is fine. He goes home, and we go back to our business.
Our other next door neighbors have a granddaughter who is like 7, and she is a big ol’ handful who doesn’t listen and doesn’t like being told no. A few Sundays ago we JUST got home at 9:30p from a wedding and had barely got Napoleon on his chain and she came over, rang our doorbell and wanted to play with him. DH said, “I’m sorry, but we just got home from a wedding, and we are getting ready for bed, so maybe next time.” The girl insisted that she play with Napoleon. “Can’t we just play with him for a little bit?” DH kept saying no, and she was really weasling her way into the house to get a yes, even placing her hand on the door. Finally, to get her out of our hair, DH says ok but only for 10 minutes and goes out with them. It was more than half an hour by the way.
I am going to be by myself tonight, and with a 3 1/2 month old I just cannot go outside to watch her. Leaving her out there with him is not an option because I can’t sit out in the sweltering heat with a baby to watch someone play with the dog, and I refuse to let anyone play with my dog unsupervised (people, even adults, seem to think that they can sit their big asses on my dog and try to ride him just because he’s tall and 130 pounds). I have the option to just not answer the door, but she isn’t stupid. She knows we’re home, and if we choose not to answer the door she will ring the doorbell constantly, and I can’t have that (obviously she’s done this before, and I had to listen to it for 2 minutes straight because I was nursing my son). I know she will be over. She is over ever day she is there and sees Napoleon out on his chain (we just have a chain link fence). There is no doubt in my mind. Thank God her grandparents go south for the winter or we’d be dealing with it all winter too.
How should I handle her? Would it be rude to tell her no and start shutting the door on her or is there a better option? We haven’t tried that because I figured it would be too rude, and I don’t want to make her cry because she gets really loud and whiney when she’s told no. I already know I need to talk to her grandma, but I don’t have time to do that tonight unfortunately. After the last few times, I need to do something. She is just way too insistent and pushy, and I am really not going to let a little 7 year old have her way just because she yells for it.